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oral sex
My FI wants me to give him more oral sex. I used to do it a lot more but lately I haven't been and he is getting mad at me. I do suck on it some to get him hard but I haven't just been sucking him off. Its not like he had been playing with me. I don't get mad at him. We are having sex like at least twice a day, why does he need head too? Is it all guys want head?
Re: oral sex
My DH is very similar....
Me giving him oral is a regular part of out foreplay...And I probably have gotten oral from him maybe 5 times in almost 3 years?
Now when we were dating/engaged I did do it to completeion a lot more but times/places were not as easy for us to have sex.
Now married I cant see why it needs to be done to completetion ALL the time. Why not just for a little foreplay and then have sex where we both can get off?
But he says its different, I can understand that. But I still refuse until I get some action for my gratification only be it oral or manual.
try talking to him about needing it to be a give and take thing. He can have some sexual moments to himself if at times you get only yours too.
He shouldn't be getting mad at you for a particular activity or non-activity in bed. He can make requests and bring up grievances, but if he's genuinely getting angry with you, there are more problems in your relationship than just this. Hopefully that was just a poor choice of words...
You should set up a give-and-take when it comes to oral. You're just as able to bring up places you think are lacking as he is.
In my experience, for most guys, oral is their favorite thing. It's pretty common.
This, plus, he's getting mad at you? Completely ridiculous.
Worrisome --- I strongly suggest you rethink this guy.
I agree with all the PPs...it's not the fact that he wants oral sex that is the problem but the fact that he is getting mad at you for not doing it. But as someone else said, hopefully you just worded that badly.
And to answer your question "why does he need head too?"...He doesn't NEED anything, if that it a preference he has then fine but he's not going to die if he doesn't get it.
Guys Perspective here:
Guys like to get head, plain and simple. (Most like to give it too!) To some guys it's nice to have but will get by without it, to some it's very important, and to others it's a make or break thing. Just as you may have things that are important to you, he may have his.
However, I think the issue you may have here is that there was an established pattern of that particular act being performed and then a downturn in the occurence of that act, seeimingly unexplained.
When you're with a long term partner, there's some expectations that get set simply by precident. If something happens on a regular basis, it's reasonable to assume that it will continue to happen as long as nothing changes. Probably from his perspective, the only thing that has changed is the amount of oral he's getting is less than it used to be.
If you want to decrease the frequency in which you give oral it's totally fine, but if you just change it up without talking to him about what your reasons are for not performing that act, he's probably feeling rejected to some degree. Nobody likes rejection, and in men a lot of the time emotions like that simply manifest themselves by getting mad.
If it's because you're not getting enough oral for yourself, then let him know! If it's because you just don't want to do it to completeion, well then that's something you're going to have to work out with him. As a guy, I don't see what's wrong with getting and giving oral to completion once in a while. I would never expect it to be the end of activity every time, every day, or even on any type of regular basis. Communication is key though. Only you two can figure out what's right for your relationship.
You could also tell your H that he's lucky to be getting any, being that this post is coming from a guy who gets no oral but loves to give. But that's another post for another day..
...and he's complaining!? Is this a typo?
I already have that in multiple flavors. Its not that I mind doing it. I just want a little in return
I don't mind doing it when I want to. I know what your talking about after I go down on him I'm not getting nothing back if he's first.
Haha no typo. He just want's oral too.
It was and it wasn't. I would say he is more upset than anything.