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Friend vent...yep, same friend
Sorry this is REALLY long and I know I sound like a broken record, but my BFF keeps coming up with new stuff I have to vent about. lol
As a recap, this is the BFF who is "dating" this guy "T" who has told her on several occasions that he can't commit to her, yet he's over her apartment practically every night with her DD.
So last night we're on the phone, and the convo goes like this:
BFF: You know, I am so glad I have this connection with T and I really understand him now.
Me: How so?
BFF: Well, now I get that when I tell him I love him and he says "Back atcha" or something like that, it's his way of saying I love you back. I'm beginning to understand his lingo.
Me (I already stopped listening at this point. I know, bad friend, but I have been hearing crap like this from her for at least 10 years. Just switch out the name): Uh huh
BFF: Yeah, I totally understand him now.
Me (watching commercials): Uh huh
BFF: Oh, and I told him the cat's out of the bag now.
Me: Huh? What cat?
(SN: I must mention they are in a multi-level marketing business together. It's like a legal pyramid scheme. They have meetings every week I think and T is out of town this weekend so she was at the meeting alone last night.)
BFF: Well, two of the ladies came up to me after the meeting and asked if T and I were together. Well I chuckled and told them that we have been dating since November and they all said they kind of figured it out. But when I told him that on the phone, he didn't say anything.
Me:....OK...like, he said nothing at all?
BFF: No, then I realized he wasn't listening to me and I told him I was going to beat him up when he got back. You know, our typical back and forth. (chuckles)
Me (flipping channels): Uh huh
I truly am through with the whole situation because I know she will probably never get it and I have more important things going on in my life. I also understand that she wants what me and our other BFF have (she is also married with a DS and she and I have talked about this on numerous occasions) and she wants it so bad that she is grasping at anything that makes her feel like she can relate to us. I get it but it doesn't make it less annoying. Regardless, I just needed to get that off my chest. Time to eat!!
Re: Friend vent...yep, same friend
I have a friend like this too. She hasn't created (what I think is) a healthy environment for her nine year old daughter by taking her on overnight "adventures" with different gentlemen. After she accused me of kidnapping her daughter (by picking the daughter up from the ER so that she didn't have to sit through her mother's lengthy evaluation for a panic attack and having her spend the night at my house, which she did regularly enough to have clothing and a toothbrush of her own in my bathroom), I had to cut ties to keep my own sanity.
As much as I didn't want to cut ties with a friend of 13 years, it was the best thing for me and my relationship with H. After nearly three years of limited contact, we talk when we see each other at events and such, but don't call or hang out much. She attended our wedding and her daughter was very happy to see me. I hope that someday in the future her daughter and I can again have a relationship and that she can see that it is possible to have a stable, long-term relationship with a man.