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WWYD?
We went OOT on Friday with a couple of friends. We asked H's mom to keep B because she's never done it, and we're trying to slowly get her more involved with him b/c she's been more interested lately.
Before we left, I gave her a list of things that we do with B (routine wise) and where things were located, where the dog medications were, things I'd picked up at the store for B to eat, etc. H also left her $60 so that she wouldn't be out any money. T and I both told her that if they needed to go anywhere, to take T's truck instead of her boyfriend's two door sports car. We don't feel safe with B in it, and H's mom said herself that they'd never been able to get B's cousin's car seat installed correctly, so she was glad we were leaving it already installed in his truck.
So...H installed the car seat in his truck (and when he installs a car seat, it takes an effort to get out--he gets it in very tight...we've had it checked by the fire department and they were impressed with how secure it was). We left after that (Friday around 2pm) and came back home Saturday at around 11pm.
When we arrived home Saturday night, the carseat was sitting in the garage. The cover was pulled up everywhere like they'd had a struggle getting it out...and we noticed the passenger side seat in his mom's boyfriend's sports car (fast, two door tiny thing) was pushed forward to the dash. They put B's car seat in there--completely disregarding what we'd said about taking H's truck if they were going anywhere.
They went to dinner in Bricktown with B on Friday night, took him to pizza for dinner on Saturday. So they left the house and went to the city twice with the car seat improperly installed. H's mom even lied to him whenever he asked her if she was driving his truck or if her boyfriend was--she said her boyfriend did. When we got home, H confirmed that his truck had never been moved. (he parks his truck in a specific spot, had the tires turned one way, driver's seat was still in same position, same crap stacked in the passenger seat, etc.)
This makes me mad. It made H mad. But since they were doing us a favor and nothing happened, do we just let it slide? I really appreciate her keeping him and I don't want to upset her--but doing what she wanted/her boyfriend wanted when it came to something that could jeopardize my child's safety? It pisses me off.
Re: WWYD?
I agree, I would be pissed! Do not just let it slide, this needs to be confronted. It only takes on split second for something to go wrong. They were VERY lucky.
I want to ask her if they took his car and see what she says. I now have proof (100%) that they took his car--look at this pic! Does this look like a truck to you? The pic was taken in the Chuck E Cheese parking lot! She just e-mailed it to me...
W.T.F.
You should ask her and see if she's stupid enough to still lie.
I would ask her too just to see what she says.
I also agree with both of the pp. You have every right to be pissed and I would make sure they knew about it.
I would definitely make H talk to her. Or at least talk to her together. Do you think if you did it by yourself you'd come off as the rude DIL?
I think H should probably handle it. His mother, not mine. I don't want to get involved particularly, but I do want her to know I'm not happy about it. I wish she'd realize that the pics she sent me have her bf's car in it and just e-mail me and apologize/explain...but that isn't going to happen!
I think this should be handled either on the phone or in person. Sometimes a text or email can translate wrong. Can you have T talk to her? I know if I confronted my MIL she might feel like I was maybe attacking her. I think if both you and T talk to her and let her know what she did was unacceptable then maybe she will get it.
I would be so pissed especially after seeing the picture. DH's parents and my parents both know that we are the parents of M and what we want goes. I would give her another chance but probably not an overnight.
I would've flipped a gasket already. That is absolutely, positively ridiculous - yes, they watched your child, and you guys are grateful. But the fact that they went around your wishes and did everything backwards is unacceptable.
I agree that your H should handle it, but it definitely shouldn't be tossed to the wayside. I'm livid for you.
Oh my stars! Look in the side mirror of the pic. It shows the car. What a fruitcake.