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I'm gonna whine a bit
Feel free to ignore but I I've done enough whining to friends and family IRL so I want to get some things out here.
I was put on hospital bedrest last Monday. (It took until Thurs night to get a wireless card--can you believe they don't have wireless here?!) I went in for my weekly check up after being on home bedrest and my cervix was dangerously short. The dr sent me right to the hospital. I couldn't even go home to pack. I was put on med to stop the contractions I didn't know I was having and we are all fine now. The babies are OK and we are just supposed to hang out. They said they will send me home at 32 weeks but I'll believe it when I see it.
I know this is the best place to be right now and honestly I'd be too nervous at home now because I wasn't feeling the contractions but this sucks. Not even so much the being in the hospital part but what's bothering me more is all the things I can't do to get ready for the babies. One of my showers was yesterday and I couldn't go. I can't see any of the baby stuff. I can't set up the nursery. I can't make their cribs up or wash their clothes. I really feel like I am missing out on a big part of the experience.
If they come early it's an automatic csection. I knew I would most likely have a csection but it feels different now that the option is taken away for a vaginal birth. If they have to go to the NICU I won't have that moment where I am in my room and get to hold the babies and feel them and keep them in there with me. I'll be alone in my room recovering while they are in the NICU. I also will probably have to go home without them. I feel robbed of all the normal things mommies get to do before their babies come.
I know this is all whiney and a giant pity party. My number one goal is to keep them in as long as possible but being trapped in one room for a week will give you some bad days and today is one of them.
I miss being home. I miss sleeping in the same bed as my husband. I miss my dog,
If you've read all this, you deserve a cookie.
Re: I'm gonna whine a bit
I don't think you're whiny. I don't blame you for wanting to do all of those things. They are the things I look forward to doing when I get KU. They are the things all new moms look forward to. It sucks. Maybe your H can bring in a few gifts a day to show you or at least take pics? That may help some. I know it's hard but you know too that the best place for you and the babies is where you are right now. I'm sorry it sucks!
Sorry BB! It is certainly understandable for you to feel this way.
I know it seems like you are missing out on some important rite of passage by not being home and preparing. But, someday you will all be home and this will be a distant memory.
Hang in there!
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
Where's my cookie?
i don't think you're being whiny. Preparing your home for your babies is a big part of the pregnancy experience, and you're missing out on that. In the grand scheme of things, bringing home healthy babies is bigger, though, as you know. Hopefully the disappointment at what you'e not able to experience will be lessened by having two big, strong, healthy kids.
What kind of cookie? Does it have walnuts in it?
You go right ahead and piss and moan. It's a big ball of suck. It's a lot to have to deal with, especially after all the work it took just to get you here in the first place. I know you feel like you're missing out, but Sparkletron and NotSparkletron will be worth it (not that you didn't already know that). Just hang tight!
So did they have your shower without you? Because that's just weird, if they did.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
NKOTB aren't even on tour right now, so at least you're not missing out on that.
Sorry things are not so much fun right now, but at least you're in good hands. And it'll all be worth it! I know your whole journey to get to this point has been long and stressful, but I can't believe how fast your pregnancy has flown by. That goes for all our pregosaurs, really, but dayum. Time flies here in the Caribbean
You're not being whiny at all. It really sucks to get sent to the hospital with no warning. I'm glad you're all doing well.
I'm sorry you missed your shower and that you feel like you're missing out. It's so hard being in the hospital. The nurses who came into my room while I was crying all told me if I didn't have bad days/hours they'd worry.
I also felt like I was missing out on all the normal pre-baby stuff and it was the worst part about bedrest. Now, 14 months later, it's a lot less bothersome. I still have my days, honestly (planning a shower for my SIL had brought a lot of it back), but it really has faded. If they need to go to the NICU (and that's a big if) I can 100% guarantee that you'll be able to see the babies before and that you won't be recovering alone.
Please let me know if I can answer any questions - I was in the hospital for 3 weeks and Jane was in the NICU for 2 months. I'd be happy to share what worked and didn't work for us during the whole thing.
Claire Elizabeth 12/31/2011
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Go ahead and whine! You definitely will get no grumbles from me.
Is there anything you can do from the hospital that might make you feel like you're preparing for babies? Knitting hats and booties, or crafting stuff for the nursery, maybe?
Keep cooking those babies!
The nerve!
House | Blog
OMG, whining is so legit in this circumstance. I'm so sorry you have to spend this time in the hospital. I'm just sending all my TP to you to keep those babes baking for as long as possible.
If it makes you feel any better, I had all that time to prepare and I still felt totally overwhelmed and underprepared for parenthood.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
(Dear Nest Gods: premature postulation is not cool)
Are you allowed to have visitors? Getting people in there to be cheerful might give you something to look forward too.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Thanks everyone.
Audrey, I'd love any tips you have!
I can work from here so that keeps me busy. The days go by fast and I can't believe it's already been a week so I hope that continues.
The shower yesterday was my ILs side of the family so Marty went in my place. I got to see all the pictures and he had a ball opening all the presents. He brought a few things up for me to see, which was nice. And cake. They brought me shower cake.
I am sure that all sucks despite the benefits it provides.
Just don't cook them. I haaaaaate that phrase.
Moi aussi. Horrible.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
But full term babies are much less likely to give you salmonella. It's a fact.
The nerve!
House | Blog
but the full term ones contain wheat gluten.