July 2010 Weddings
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If you could change one thing...
There are complaints about it being slow today so here is a little question to maybe start some talking:
If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
my read shelf:
Books read in 2011: 32 of 75
Re: If you could change one thing...
I'm cheating and saying two.
The day of, I would have said I wouldn't wear extensions if I could have a redo. I was freaking out all day leading up to the ceremony because I thought my hair looked bad. Not bad, just not like me. Like it was too long. Thankfully, my good friend is a stylist and she pinned it up before the ceremony so it looked a little shorter. Now that I've seen photos though, I loved my hair all day long. I don't know what I was so worried about. By the end of the day, I had 4 different hair styles at my wedding lol. It got so hot and humid that my friend pinned it into a side pony. Then after dancing all night, the curls were falling out so she turned it into a bun.
Second thing, I would have planned more time for photos of just my husband and me. We've got like a dozen and that's it. I know that's still a good amount, but there's only like one out of that dozen that I love. The rest are just okay. I would also have wanted more outdoor photos, but everyone (including myself) was dying of the heat and humidity.
Two Wonderful Years. 7.10.2010
I'm also picking 2 things:
*That I would have gotten dressed earlier and had the photographer take pics of me in my dress before the wedding. I think the only ones she did were of me actually getting in the dress and then it was time to walk down the aisle. I think it would have been nice to take some beforehand.
*I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'm pissed that my FIL convinced my DH to ride in his car to the church. Now in all of our wedding pics, I'll be exiting a bright red older model subaru at the reception. Not at all what I wanted. I really wouldn't to cry when I saw that crappy car pull up and I knew that was my ride from the church to the reception. And it wasn't even cleaned/vacuumed inside.
Sadly I would change my dress. While I love my dress, I know (and knew) that it wasnt the dress of my dreams. I was just about to order my dream dress when we went and looked one more place. I let my mom convinced me that the other dress (the one that was ordered).
When I think back about the wedding the one thing I would have changed is my dress, I just think I would have been more happy to see me in a dress that's me instead of a dress that looks like it belong on someone else.
Plus my dress I wore to the wedding was too long - seamstress kept saying it would be ok. I almost tripped going up the stairs & then I had to carry it around all night and we had to safety pin it up at the reception b/c my train was still too long after being bustled.
aside from running away for a nice small, non-stressful DW?
NOT HIRING MY AHOLE of a DJ lol
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I love you, Daddy...2/24/1953 to 2/13/2011
All my "uggggh" moments stream from not having a babysitter for my daughter. I tried for the longest time to get one, but our wedding was OOT so I was depending on my 2nd cousins wife to help with someone in the area. My parents and DH kept saying how great of a babe she is and that we didn't need someone else there to watch her.
When we were all trying to get dressed ourselves, she needed someone. My parents were 15 minutes late to the reception, because they were waiting for her to wake from her nap, and my BIG bridezilla moment was when my dad was MIA for 45 minutes because he had left to put her to bed at my 2nd cousins house. We stalled dances for 30 minutes but it was late and everyone wanted to get the party started. I guess it was most frustrating because no one would help us get in touch with them to let them know we needed them.
Ahhh well. It still was the best day ever.
July 10, 2010 Best. Day. Of. Life.
I think my number one pick would be the cake. We gave our baker a picture of a cake that we wanted and she assured us that she could do it. Once we entered the reception hall I took one look at the cake and had to immediately look away in fear of what emotions would come out if I dwelled on it to long. It looked horrible!! It was nothing at all like what we wanted and just looked plan ugly. I know, it's a rather minor detail (and hey, it still tasted amazing) but I just cringe every time I think of it, even to this day!
There is one other minor thing that I wish was different though now that the day is over, it doesn't matter: my dress was too tight! It did feel a little tight at all my fittings but I just brushed it aside because it was still able to close up properly. However, wearing it for a few minutes vs wearing it for hours and hours made a huge difference! My back started to hurt immensely about half way through the ceremony, I constantly felt short of breath, and had no room to eat any of the food! Just to show how tight the dress was, I had bruises above my chest for a few days after the wedding!
my read shelf:
Books read in 2011: 32 of 75
I would have changed photographers. Not the company I worked with, but the actual photographer. I'm so angry at him right now and I will be having a few words with the owner of the company about making sure the bride is happy and following directions and oh yeah, NOT SHOVING MY MATRON OF HONOR DURING THE CEREMONY!!!!
Can you tell I'm just a wee bit peeved?
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I'm going to cheat and say two, also...
1. I wish I saved/spent more money on a better photographer-not gone with The Pro's. The photographer was so disappointing...there were many pictures with sun spots and with a shadow over peoples' faces. He also took too many posed pictures and not enough of the more candid and photojournalistic look that I really wanted. Also, when I asked for one of my must-have pics, he huffed and puffed as if he was annoyed at taking the picture of our feet-and it showed bc that pic came out terribly-how can you mess that up?? There weren't enough pics of DH and I alone that actually came out well, it makes me so sad that I can't bring myself to go through the pics to decide the album.
2. I wish I didn't go around to all of the tables BEFORE eating my dinner. DH and I missed all of the food that I really wanted to eat. I should have just eaten then gone around to say hello to everyone. I should have, also, just asked for what I wanted. I missed out on food and other things bc I was too overwhelmed to just speak up and ask for it.
Ugh girl I cannot agree with you more! I think we probably have less than a dozen posed pictures of H and me
And I really don't like any of them. This is why I am pretty sure we're going to do a TTD session, or I guess more of a bridal portraits session in the fall when it's not so hot, so we can get some good pictures of us. The only thing is that now he needs to rent his tux again and I need to get done up again, but oh well I guess.
Also I am going to have to say one of my biggest regrets is not getting a videographer. You can only re-live it though pictures so many times...
I didn't get to talk to everyone but I would have missed out on my reception by the time I said hi to each person (we never did a receiving line). So I guess finding a balance between seeing everyone and enjoying the reception.
I would more change things about our honeymoon. I would have not left the day after the wedding. We were exhausted, only got 3 hours of sleep and flew all day. It was horrible, I think I would have waited until Monday to leave and would have not flown with Spirit Airlines!
I have a couple as well.
*I would have made sure one of my really good friends was at the wedding early to see me and hang out. We got in a big fight a year before the wedding (right before we got engaged) and didn't talk for about seven months. So I already had my WP and everyone picked and I wasn't changing it when we started speaking again, although she would have for sure been in the wedding. But I never got a single good photo of us all night. There are a bunch of the two of us dancing, and one with me hugging her and her hubby, but not looking at the camera or anything. I totally wish I could take that back.
*Also I would have written out a toast. I forgot to say a bunch of stuff I'd love to say, like thanking my three cousins and aunt/uncle who sent us on our honeymoon. Not to mention that, but to mention them and say thanks would've been good, but I forgot.
*I don't know what I possibly could have done about this last one...but one of the layers in my cake ended up being a flavor I didn't order and I'm totally pissed about that now. Obviously I didn't notice until after the wedding when we were leaving, because it was the middle tier.
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the only thing that was screwing up left and right on our wedding day: our pastor
this pastor KNOWS me. i grew up in his church, and although i haven't gone in about 7 years (college, then living too far away), he knows me very well and knows my family (mom and dad continue to go). when we asked him to do our wedding almost 2 years beforehand, he was hesitant because it was an outside wedding and not in his church. i wish he had just told us "no" because he clearly couldnt care less about our wedding.
- he tells us 19 days before the wedding he wont be coming to the rehearsal and RD because he will be camping (WHAT?!)
- he was camping until SATURDAY MORNING, the day of our wedding
- i asked him to get there at 4 because the ceremony started at 5:30 and this way he could catch up on things/see the place before the ceremony started. he showed up at around 4:55 - 5:00.
- he walked straight up to my FIL and said, "i need the paperwork before this wedding can happen!!!" in a demanding tone as my FIL was greeting guests and having a nice time. totally took him off guard as my FIL had never MET this man but obviously quickly figured out who he was
- my coordinator told him to get to the altar because we would be starting soon. APPARENTLY he didnt listen/care because as my dad and i started to walk down the aisle, my husband and the pastor were NOT at the altar!!! i see them running down the stairs to get there and the whole thing had to start over again. ugh. it sucked. good thing we already had a "first look" because if that was the first time i saw my husband on our wedding day, the butterfly feeling would have been completely shot.
- he did not tell everyone to stand up, so i walked down the aisle with everyone sitting. not that big of a deal, but when you picture something one way your whole life and it's completely different, it's kinda pooey.
- when it was time for our unity sand, he said, "alright, and now it's time for this...sand...thing" like it wasn't something special to us
- after we finished our unity sand, he said "that almost took as long as the whole ceremony!" ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! our special moment is not a JOKE!
- OH! AND FINALLY, he pronounced our new last name incorrectly when he presented us at the end. REALLY?!?! REALLY?! do you NOT care THAT much?! we had 4 meetings with him, and CONSTANTLY told him how to pronounce our last name. and, it's not that hard! it's a very phonetic last name!!! my husband even told him ONCE MORE right before the ceremony. ugh, this made me so mad.
so yeah. i would DEFINITELY pick another person to marry us. this guy was a disaster. it was obvious he didnt care at all.
jacqui + erik 7.10.10
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I can't pick just one, because, going into the wedding, one was more important to me, but ended up fine. The other wasn't as much of a concern before the wedding, but has me hating all of my wedding pictures.
I wish I could have stopped the rain, just enough so that we could have had our ceremony outside. One of the biggest things for me was to be outside and have my feet in the grass during the ceremony, I was so heartbroken when we had to move it inside. Plus, there were only a few rows of chairs (which no one sat in), so the aisle was non existent, people were basically stuck at their tables from 4:15-8:00, etc.
Even more than an outdoor ceremony, I think, I would change my hair. I have no what my hairdresser was thinking when she did my hair. We did a trial, and I liked it, but on the wedding day I brought her a picture of something just a little bit different in the back, and she said that was great. Then she f***ed up my hair so much, shaping it like a bow. By the time she "fixed" it, there was too much hair spray to do what I wanted, the ends were all straggly, and one side of my head looks like it has no hair. I absolutely hate it.
We're also considering doing this. Do you think it would look weird if DH just wore khaki dress pants and a nice button up shirt? I want the photos to be fairly casual. I will probably just curl my hair myself.
I usually tell people I wouldn't change a thing but I can be honest with you girls!!
-I would not have taken all my bridesmaids and friends to the spa the day before the wedding. It was really fun, but I splurged and paid for everyone, and the bill was way more than I had originally planned. I felt like no one really appreciated how much I'd saved and planned for the day and barely even got a thank you from most of the girls. If I could do it again, I would have gone just me and my MOH!!!
-I too would have loved more pics, I think I would have made our ceremony at 4 instead of 5, so we would have an extra hour for photos. Everyone was staying at the hotel anyway so it wouldn't have been a huge deal if people had gone back to their rooms for a half hour or so before the cocktail hour. I was more concerned that everyone else enjoy the day than us!
In both cases, not to sound like a martyr, I think both my issues stemmed from me not putting my own needs first! Gotta work on that.
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I would have hired a better serving team and I would have set up the reception myself.
Don't worry, I'm working on it.
Get it on!
I would change the fact that we had no pictures taken with extended family like we had asked. I was so caught up in the reception and talking to everyone that I forgot that we hadn't taken certain pictures yet. I only remembered halfway through our honeymoon and DH said he realized the day after, but didn't want me to get upset so he didn't say anything to me. We didn't get any pictures with our grandparents which upsets me the most. We also didn't get pictures with our godparents or our aunts, uncles and cousins. We specifically put those shots down as must takes, but our photographer didn't remember, or was too busy taking other pictures.
I also would have had us take more wedding party shots in different locations. All of the shots are in the same spot, and if I get pictures back and find out that the buildings in the background are all you can see, I'm going to be pissed. DH and I walked around the pond after everyone went in and took a ton of pics in different locations. Just wish we could have done some more like that with the wedding party.
Other than that, I really wouldn't have changed a thing. It was the best day of my life and I wish I could go back and party again!
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I think I would do a vintage theme fromthe 1930's or 40's
Also, I would have interviewed our photographer. Probably would have gone with someone else as our's won't give us copyrights.
my things really are small. i thought i would have wanted the day to start later because our reception ended about 9, but i was beat by then and so glad to leave with my DH at that time. otherwise, i did not let much get to me on our wedding day. but...
1. take more pictures with extended family. we did all of our pictures before the ceremony and planned to do extended family during the cocktail hour. everyone was talking and cocktail hour was over so fast we never got them done.
2. remember my garter. i ended up using a napkin my friend tied around my thigh.
a few things.
i would have talked my husband out of changing our original venue. I still don't like the place we got married but he didn't like one little thing about the original location so i told him to find another.. and he did, and i hated it. this then turns to.. i hated the decor because the draping i got wasn't tall enough to do the job i was hoping... ah! (biggest pet peeve)
i wish i had more time to walk around and make sure things were right... there was a lot that went wrong.
i too, wish i would have walked around BEFORE we ate to see everyone, and wished the event started earlier so we had more time before older guests started to leave!
and lastly, i wish we would have only gone like 6 days on our honeymoon instead of 8. it was too long and i was missing my baby dog!