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Money shot aka Facial??
My DH has been asking me if he can give me a money shot and I have declined. I am not a prude and I have given it a chance with him (once or twice), I'm just not a fan.
He asked me again last night and I replied by asking him, "Can I pee on your face?' He laughed and said "Who do you think you are? R. Kelly? hahahahh" I replied, "No, but if isn't it the equivalent of you ejaculating on my face? DH said it is not the same.
I don't get it....what pleasure does a guy get from giving a woman a money shot?
What is your take on this matter? Are you a fan or not a fan? Would you do it if your DH asked?
Re: Money shot aka Facial??
It doesn't matter how we feel about it, it only matters how you feel about it. DH wants to do it every now and then, it doesn't bother me. But it's not for everyone.
Like pp said, if you've tried it and don't like it, and aren't willing to do it once in a while, then don't. If you do let him do it, and act really disgusted by it, maybe he'll decide he doesn't like it after all.
Sometimes it's a dominance thing--a lot of people like dom/sub play in the bedroom. It's extremely common. This is just one way to express it.
Sometimes it's just because they've seen it in porn and it hits a button in them, they like it. For a lot of guys, their semen is a symbol of their power. It has the power to create human life, it's their "seed."
Some people do like being urinated upon, btw... it's a legitimate, if less common, fetish.
BF does like to give me facials, and I like receiving them. I don't feel degraded or abused... I feel sexy. I feel dirty. But, I like to be dominated. I like being spanked and slammed up against walls and having my hair pulled. I don't read into it; it just turns my crank.
If your H wants to watch himself ejaculate on you, how about your breasts? That's usually hot for guys, too. That could be your compromise.
I agree.
!.......It's such an abusive thing,
Really abusive? OMG!
If your H wants to watch himself ejaculate on you, how about your breasts? That's usually hot for guys, too. That could be your compromise.
This might be a more resonable compromise if you're not into getting it all over face (I wouldn't like that either; my H thinks it's stupid but has enjoyed the breast option before.)
BTW, usually the reason some guys are into money shots is because they watch a lot of porn.
WTF? A hypocrite? This is the dumbest thing I've seen on here. It's one thing to get a little on your face, its another to have someone shooting it in your eye on purpose.
W.T.F. Are you stupid, or are you confused?
If her H wants to give her oral, and is fine with "getting her juices on his face" and she is fine with it also, GREAT. They're all happy.
If her H wants to ejaculate into her FACE and she does not want that, then she has a right to say no.
How do you not see that these are two very different things? In the first scenario, they both want to do what is being done.
In the second scenario, only HE wants to do it. You think her having an opinion about what happens to her during sexual activity makes her a "hypocrite?" I think you even thinking that makes you a dumbass.
Your post infurates me.
I like getting facials but DBF hate doing them. We compromised by making it a "once in a blue moon" thing for me and in return I indulge him in some fanatsy. It is mainly a role play type fanatsy but still worth it to him.
Can you compromise some way? I don't care for DBF to finish on my boobs but if he said that was better then a facial, I would go for it. What about making it a special occasion only thing? Have him do it while you are both in the shower so you can clean up right away?
Just a thought.
Although I am not a fan, I would be willing to try it a few times just for him. But since you have gone that far, still dont like it and he continues to ask, I think you have every right to be annoyed.
What about doing it in the shower so you can just wash it off quickly?
P.S. Do you think men confuse porn with real life?
Sorry, I am kinky but I am not into money shots. My hubby has never asked, and I have never asked him for it. He was so quiet it has never come up.
I guess that is not a good answer for you. Just go with the compromise thing that seems to be the best answer right about now.
Screw facials, I snort rails of jizz.
No sex act by itself is abusive. (Unless you consider rape a sex act, which - no, not really.) Ejaculating on her face when she has not consented is abusive, but the mere act itself cannot be. Some of us have no issues with being ejaculated on, and all you do when you call that "abuse" is marginalize kink and kinky people and prevent positive discussions of sex.
OP, you just have to tell your husband that you *really* aren't into this, and you don't consider it to be an option for your sex life. If he persists, it may be helpful to have a session or two with a sex therapist about why he's so fixated.