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Cool 21 Day Challenge
So...this is a challenge our Pastor gave us at church, but you dont have to be spiritual to do it.. keep reading! 
Our Pastor has been doing a series called Wasted, he's been talking about different topics every week that you can get "wasted" (drugs, porn, etc.) on.. this week he talked about how to waste your marriage... it was SHOCKING to me when he said that 45% of newlywed couples will cheat during the FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE! H and I just looked at each other with our mouths wide open...
Anyway, he shared with us 5 things you can do that can save your marriage before cheating becomes an issue. He challenged us to do these things everyday for the next 21 days (because it takes that long to make a habit), so I thought I'd share them with you.
1. Get transparent (share your feelings with each other, not just your thoughts)
2. Get Alone (date your spouse, spend time alone with each other...if you dont date your spouse, someone else will, so make sure you have the time with each other)
3. Get Spiritual (pray and read together) *If you're not spiritual just skip this, I'm not forcing this on anyone, but if you are, its important that you share this with your spouse.
4. Get some help (at least once a week, seek out a friend or loved one just to talk to about things that are going on...fix something before it gets broken)
5. Get naked!!!! (yep, this was everyone's favorite! Lol)
Just thought I would share those with you.. H and I are going to take this 21 day challenge.. I think it will make us a better couple!
Re: Cool 21 Day Challenge
Thanks so much for sharing those. I was a little shocked about the statistic of cheating within the first year, but believe it.
We covered a lot of this stuff in our marriage prep and our engaged encounter weekend we had to do for the Catholic church.
that's interesting to hear about the rate of cheating in the first year.
but i have to admit, the things you mentioned shouldn't just be a challenge you take for 21 days. a marriage takes effort; it's not like a fish you can buy at the pet store and then take it home and ignore it. personally, DH and i do 4 out of the 5 things (we're not spiritual) you mentioned on a regular basis. and the underlying thing relating all of them- communication. that's the key to a great marriage.
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totally agree with you and thats why its a 21 day challenge, because it takes 21 days to form a habit....these things are things every couple SHOULD be doing on a daily basis.. totally agree with you, that was the point of the whole challenge, so that in the end you do them everyday or somewhere close to it..