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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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advice for a friend
So my girlfriend has been dating this guy since June. She met him while she was working at the bar with me....hes a customer who comes in with his co-workers for happy hour. He works at a local car dealership in sales. They've gone out a few times and hung out at his place and she likes him quite a bit. But she doesnt know what to do as she is unsure as to how he really feels about her. Shes told him that shes not into just havinga physical relationship and he said thats not the case but then changes the subject. He has never come right out and been like hey i like you....he says thngs like im looking forward to seeing you, I like it when your around,,etc.....Hes been super busy as August is a big sales month at his dealerships and hes had no time off. (This is true and not a line....I know this for a fact as they have been my customers for 3 years). she wants to cut him some slack b/c she knows how busy he is but at the same time she doesnt want to invest any more time, energy, or feelings into someone when it isnt reciprocated. Ive run out of things to tell her....any advice anyone?
Re: advice for a friend
I can't tell from your post if you think this guy is bad for her?
If he's the kind of guy she isn't sure about, or he seems very non-committal, I would probably encourage her to 'leave her options open'. If she's not looking for a physical relationship then it can't hurt to be open to meeting other guys. He may honestly be too busy this month to hang out with her, but it could be an excuse too, either way she shouldn't hold out for him. If he calls her to go on a date in a few weeks, ok, but it's not like she'll be in another full fledged relationship by then.
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I hear the point about his busy schedule as a reason that he can't go out a whole lot right now, but does he keep in contact other ways? I definitely agree with pp's point of making herself less available and see what happens. I can't help but think that yeah, he might be busy, but if he REALLY liked her, he would find time to see her, even if it was for a quick lunch etc.
Plus, if he really did like her and didn't have the time, don't you think he would make the extra effort to verbally tell her how much he wishes he could?
I don't know, maybe I expect to much, but if she's concerned about wasting her time, then her gut might be telling her it's time to move on, or at least keep options open.