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Clicky Poll: PDA at the gym
Here is the scenario...My DH and I like to go to the gym and relax
in the hot tub at least a couple of times a week. He would like to
occasionally place his hand on my thigh half way between my knee and
hip if I am sitting on the edge instead of in the hot tub. He also
likes to lean over and give me a kiss (think peck) on the lips or
cheek. I am ok with it when there is no one around but push him away
when there is anyone there.
My view is that PDA is not ok at the gym. I just don't think it's appropriate. I think if I were a single person there in the hot tub with a couple I would not want to see any kind of PDA, this is isn't a hotel or your house.
His view is that I am his wife and he's my husband and he can touch me and that I am being prudish. [Poll]
Re: Clicky Poll: PDA at the gym
I think he's missing the point. It isn't about your marital status it's about "taking up space" with the PDA that makes anyone (even another married couple who happened to be nearby) uncomfortable.
I remember a friend slobbering all over her bf when I was her OOT guest. We were at a scenic overlook and I was just jaw droppingly in awe. I was standing RIGHT there. It was so rude!
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I'm in the mindset that PDA is rarely ever okay. J and I hold hands in public and maybe sneak a peck every once in awhile...but that's the extent of it. I'm a married woman and it makes me uncomfortable seeing anyone kissing in a public place.
It is even more weird at the gym though. Not my idea of romantic.
this, though in full disclosure, i don't like PDA at all short of holding hands and an occasional quick peck.
it's lovely that you take advantage of the hot tub for relaxation but its intended purpose, as bri pointed out, is for sore muscles. it's not your backyard hot tub where you have privacy. i would be incredibly uncomfortable as well.
your DH should respect your feelings and feel you up in the car after you leave. ; )
It's not like you are making out in the gym or snuggling so close that you can't separate you two. If you were that would be completely different. I don't think one peck or your husband putting his hand on your leg (and not in a sexual way) is horrible. HOWEVER, if you are uncomfortable with this than that is enough to stop it and for it not to be okay.
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Hey! We go to the same gym, remind me to stay out of that hot tub!
I kid. I think it varies. Hubs will give me a peck as we veer off to our different exercise plans, but I think that in a hot tub, there's a different mindset, it's steamy, so that changes things.
But, if I were sitting in the hot tub with you, I wouldn't care about his hand on your thigh.
PDA CAN be gross. There's a difference between putting his hand on your thigh and kissing you though. something like the former is subtle, the latter is not. But you're not making out and being teenerager-esq either. But i'm with you 100% - I don't think it's appropriate with others around in a public place where people don't normally do this (ie. not a bench in a park or on a beach or a romantic restaurant).
A couple jumped onto a tour bus with my husband and I while we were in mexico and they smootched and made kissing spit sounds the entire time and I wanted to throw up. Seeing is one thing, but hearing is another! I think that people that feel the need to do that are very insecure about their relationship and feel like they need to prove something to themselves and others around them.
A little peck on the cheek or forehead is very romantic and loving, necking in a pool or in a tour bus is a cry for attention.