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Vent... probably long and dumb and TMI
I apologize in advance for how silly this is all going to sound, and how poorly it's probably going to be written... I feel like I need to get it all off my chest, and I need someone else to tell me how dumb it is!
So I stopped BCP last month and I got my AF right away, and right on schedule. We were planning to abstain until after my next AF so I can actually start charting, but we had a moment or two "whoops!" and by "whoops" I mean, "who cares!" followed quickly by "this is a bad idea!" But it was only a moment or two, and it was about 4 weeks ago. (I know, 4 weeks without sex, it's been hell!) (oh, and I can't use condoms)
Now I know that it takes your body a while to adjust (and I posted something similar to this on the Getting Pregnant board and they said the same thing), but it has now been almost 40 days since my last period. I keep taking pregnancy tests, and they keep coming back negative.
But I'm exhausted. I have a hard time sleeping at night... I lay there awake for a few hours, just waiting for sleep to come, completely tired. Then during the day I'm so tired I can't do anything... I can't even get to the gym, and I'm never one to not go to the gym.
I keep getting an upset stomach, but not enough to actually get sick, just enough to be annoyed.... but other than that I feel fine.
I keep thinking... maybe I am pregnant. and then every test I take, it stings. I know this isn't the right time for us to have kids, and I know our lives would be much easier if we wait even just a year, but it's still a little disappointing when that other line doesn't show up... even though we only barely had sex a few weeks ago.. so I would have to be the most fertile person alive to be pregnant now.
but even if the odds are against me, how absolutely dumb am I to think that I still might get a positive one of these mornings? I just wish AF would get here so I can stop analyzing every feeling I have and so I can start charting and so I can have sex with my husband.
and now I need a nap. blech.
Re: Vent... probably long and dumb and TMI
I don't think you're dumb at all. Everyone has those little panicky moments when your period is a bit late. This last month, I effed up on taking my BC (like the last active pill got taken two days late) and we weren't using other methods of protection and then my period came a few days late... the first few days I kept creating all these symptoms in my head, just because I was being paranoid.
If you only barely had sex, I think the chances of you getting KTFU are pretty slim. I would just try to relax (I know, easier said than done) and give it a few more days. When a friend of mine stopped taking her BC, her period was right on time that first month, and then she didn't have a period for like 2 months. Your body is probably just trying to regulate itself.
And holy crap, 4 weeks without sex???? NO THANK YOU!!! We usually don't go 2 days without it! I'd have some serious withdrawals!!!
How many tests have you taken? I can understand your feeling of disappointment even though you are not ready for a child. I am sure everything will work out either way. Do your best to try to relax.
If you are really concerned you could always talk to your doctor and ask them to do a blood test.
Aside from that, why can't you use condoms?
I develop bartholin cysts really easily, from just about anything that touches that region. It's when the bartholin gland that produces the lubrication for sex gets blocked up... it's super painful and I was told in high school that if I continued to get them they would eventually have to remove the gland, making sex pretty uncomfortable.
I'm sure they make condoms that are hypoallergenic or made from something natural or whatever, but I'm so scared to even try them because I remember what that cyst felt like! haha
Yeah, it sounds like your body is just trying to regulate. It can take several months for some people, so you might want to figure out a backup method (Today Sponge or... well, the other kind of withdrawl) for a couple of months. There are lots of different kinds of condoms, too, so you could try one of the latex-free "natural" versions if it's a latex issue that prevents you from using them.
And... two days? Wow. And Matt wonders why I feel so self-conscious and guilty about my nonexistent sex drive. I used to have a very healthy one... Sigh.
ya'll must have had way more time on your hands than we did hahahahaha!