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Hubby wants to try something new...
Sooooo... This is really embarassing for me to talk about, but I need advice.
My husband wants to try anal sex. I'm very hesitant for a number of reasons, but mostly I'm afraid that it will hurt to much! When we first started having sex, it hurt alot and I'm afraid that will happen again.
Advice? Tips? Any help would be great! Thanks!
Re: Hubby wants to try something new...
The most important thing when trying anything new is COMMUNICATION. Yes, anal can be very painful. Especially if your partner goes too fast, to deep, to hard, etc. I recommend a LOT of foreplay and lots of lube. Go really slowly and say everything you are feeling about the experience. If it is too much for you, say so. It can be great, with the right person and in the right "conditions"-so to speak.
Call me Cheap, I call it growing up!
To be honest, my hubby loves it! One thing that I've found that helps me is anal beads. Ones that start small and get bigger.
Good luck! And remember lube and communication! It can really be fun for the both of you!
I was EXTREMELY embarrassed and hesitant when my fi first asked me to do this. It took me a long time to agree. My fi is very patient and understanding and constantly talking to me. We've done it 4 or 5 times (we would stop when it got too painful for my liking) and each time it gets better and better. It's still not completely enjoyable for me yet, but I have a feeling that we'll get there at some point, as will you! The key is communication and making sure you're keeping eachothers feelings at heart.
Good luck!