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Birth Control
Hi!
So I am having quite the dilema on what to do for birth control. I am lost and really dont know what to do. The H and I have been married for a little more than a year, and are not sure if we want children or not. I have a slew of medical problems that includes PE's and kidney disease, so I am very limited on the birth controls that I can take. My doctors tell me that it is not likely that I can carry a child, and that I should go ahead and have my tubes tied. I am only 24 and am not sure if that is what I want. I am holding out for the possibility that maybe after a kidney transplant I might be able to have a child. My husband doesnt want me to risk my health, and says we can just adopt. Any advice?
Re: Birth Control
Based on the level of your indecision, I would stick with reversible BC for now. If it turns out you can't have kids, it won't matter whether you got your tubes tied now or later, so there's no harm in holding off.
A girlfriend of mine was told all through her teenage years that she would never be able to have kids due to her endometriosis. She has two sons now. I don't know the ins and outs of your medical conditions, but sometimes the unlikely thing happens.
I may sound like a broken record on this forum, but can you have an IUD? If hormones are a problem, there is a non-hormonal one. It will keep you protected for years (5-10, depending) and you are just as fertile as before once it's removed, and immediately, too.
I wouldn't discount adoption if pregnancy is that big of a health risk for you. There are a lot of kids out there who need loving parents.
You should look into getting an Intrauterine Device (IUD)
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/birth_control_intrauterine_devices_iuds/article_em.htm
I have Mirena, and I cannot really give a review. I am going on my 3rd month, and have had a period all except the past few days ever since, however, I was bleeding for two months before hand also, so it is there to deal with more issues than just BC.
Personally I would wait on the tying your tubes. My aunt has horrible endometriosis, and was told her entire life that she would never have kids. She is now the proud mama of 5! INCLUDING TWINS!!! All conceived the natural way w/o drugs. God has a way of making things happen if he wants them to. When she got her tubes tied after baby #5, it took them a really long time to finish the surgery because of all of the endometrial tissue everywhere. It took so long the family started to really worry about her.
Good luck on your heath issues, and hopefully your kidney transplant. Remember do what you think is right for you. There is no shame in adopting if you want or need to. There is also no shame in wanting your own child. Do not let drs or even dh pressure you into what they want, because they think it is right for you.
I too have health issues that make the amount of birth control options very limited. It is very frustrating. We use condoms and we're in the process of switching to NFP.
My H and I are more than likely going to adopt. We'll see how the process of getting pregnant works out for us. It might be more trouble (and harmful to an unborn baby than it's worth).
Sorry to hear about the PE's. I had one last year (pulmonary embolism, yes?) and it scared the hell out of H and me. I'm on the paraguard IUD and it's been pretty good.
-You may want to check with your insurance about what's covered (mirena, paraguar, and practioners). I had to have a different doctor than my regular oby/gyn put it in for some weird coverage reasons
-the first time it's implanted and the month or 2 afterwards my cramps were a little more sore than usual.
-Bleeding is A LOT heavier, but I don't have to take a pill every day or worry about blood clots so I'll take that trade off
- you or your partner should check for the strings after every period, but I usually don't. There's arisk of it falling out but I haven't felt any insecurity with its placement.
- you can take it out any time you and hubby are ready to start trying
best of luck!