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Help me manage stress
With the house renovation still ongoing, moving in a week, the passing of a family friend (he died in a car accident on Wednesday in which he was ejected from the car because he wasn't wearing his seat belt), my husband's birthday tomorrow, being pregnant and losing mobility, and being just generally a crazy person because of the raging pregnancy horomones...
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Re: Help me manage stress
Whoa...Crazy nest! I just meant to post that once...
I was going to finish by saying, I am stressed to the max and need your advice and ideas on how to cope,manage and/or de-stress!
I have mandatory "me" time. Even if it is just 10 minutes sitting somewhere quiet and taking some deep breaths. Does me a world of good.
Are you a list person? I'm not but I know a few folks who are and they take a lot of satisfaction in crossing something off.
This is coming from someone who has focus issues, so do with it what you will. The lists are long and overwhelming, but you have to breathe and remember that things will get done if you focus on one item at a time. If you're trying to accomplish one of the items and it's not happening, step back, take a break, complete something else and go back.
Thats fair! I guess I would probably suggest the following:
Delegate as much as you're willing/able to. If people owe you favors, call it in.
Schedule yourself some time for you and give yourself permission to take a mini vacation from your stress trigger(s). Read a chapter of a book, listen to a CD in full, take a soak in the tub, whatever. Just give yourself permission to take care of you. When I was mid Bathroom remodel - I finally got so frustrated that I volunteered to do all the running to the store. Having that solo time in the car was priceless and kept me from smacking my Dad with a 2x4.
If you need to do lists, maybe make a daily list rather than a master list? Make the daily list something that you really can accomplish in one day. Don't think about the next day until you've ended work from the current day.
If you need to, cry it out! Lol - sometimes that feels so good. People think you're nuts but from time to time, just letting it all go and then being done is a huge relief!
See if your hubby would be OK with delaying the birthday festivities for a week or two until you're both less stressed out. Use it as a celebration for all you've accomplished the last month and really really enjoy yourselves. Crack open a bottle of sparkling grape juice and toast to the start of something really really awesome.
When I am stressed and if time allows i'll either get in the tub or the shower for a good long time and really concentrait and what I am doing. Like washing my hair or shaving my legs. I'll also read if I can or watch a mindless TV show.
Otherwise if I am in a situation where I have no time and I feel myself getting ready to boil over I just remove myself from it. I just walk away and sit for a minute and remind myself that the sitution won't last forever and if I can get done just one thing I can move on to something else.
The ladies have given you great advice (and I second the pedicures!!!), and also recommend taking prenatal yoga if you aren't already. My body feels SO much better after and it is a great way to steal some me time.
Also (and I struggle with this) don't feel bad about saying no or retreating to your room or a quiet space to relax. I don't know how you've been feeling, but 3rd tri has hit me like a mack-freaking-truck. I'm exhausted. I'm actually awaiting a knock on my door from my neighbor trying to get me to go out for dinner/drinks tonight...but I am way too exhausted to be social and am standing my ground! I just want to have dinner, put on a movie, and fall asleep with Juan.
I feel like I'm failing at life if I can't keep up the same pace I maintained pre-pg, but I'm beginning to realize that I just can't and that doesn't make me a bad person or failure. Your body is working on overdrive and it is completely within your rights to do what you need to do for you! Give DH some added responsibilities, take advantage of the times you are feeling good, and rest when you feel the need. You are growing another human being!
P.S. Sorry you are getting hit with so much all at once! If you need to vent or need some pg support, don't hesitate to message me.
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Thank you all for your great advice and words of encouragement.
I am headed home tonight to try and make a big dent in packing our apartment while my husband is at the house working on the renovation stuff.
I just have to get through the two weeks and then I will be moved into my new home even if we are still working on it. Coping mechanisms for getting through it all are not even entering my mind so I appreciate the suggestions.