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WWYD?
My SIL is getting married in October. I got an invitation in the mail yesterday for her bridal shower and her bachelorette party... they're on September 11th. I already have plans for that day - an OSU football game.
I feel pretty darn selfish for saying that I'm not going to her shower and party because I'm going to the game - which I bought season tickets for several months ago. BUT, at the same time, SIL and I don't really get along and I don't mesh well with her group of people which will be throwing/attending these events. And, (holy-moly I feel like I childish brat for saying this) she didn't attend any of my showers. On top of that, the invite said not to bring any gifts because she's picked out things she wants out of a catalog (I think it's one of those Ladie's Only sex party things) and we can just pick something from there to buy her - that's not word for word, but it's more or less what the invite says.
What would you do? Would you skip a full day of complete fun with your family and friends and college football that you've paid for and have been planning for a long time? Or, would you go to SIL's shower/party even thought you don't mesh well with SIL or her friends and really don't even talk to her but a handful of times a year because... well, she's your SIL?
Like I said, I feel totally and completely selfish and childish for wanting to go to the game over the shower and for stating some of those things... but, I'm having a conflict with it.
Re: WWYD?
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yea, I would just tell her you are so sorry you can't make it. I don't think I would tell her why, just that you can't go.
Here's my take on it. If you thought there was a realistic chance that you and your SIL would be BFFs in the next 2-3 years, you should probably go. It doesn't sound like that's the case, though, which is totally ok. My SIL and I will never be close. That's ok. She's a nice woman; I'm a nice woman. We just don't have much in common.
Since it sounds like you're just two different people, though, I'd let her know that you're sorry, but you already have plans, send her a fabulous gift with a super sweet card (so she has no room to complain AND won't hold it against you in case you do become good friends over the next 50-60 years), and enjoy the football game guilt free!
This is pretty much it. We don't have one single thing in common. If we weren't "related" we would, in no shape or form, even associate with each other. It's not that I don't like her - I find her annoying and irritating at times - but I don't not like her. Thanks for the input!
Yeah...I agree about going to the game. Just send a gift and call it even.
I skip showers and parties during football season, too. People who don't live in football towns think I'm nuts. *shrugs*
UH, you better be going to the game because I'm pretty sure you already told me you'd be there! Seriously though, I doubt your SIL really cares if you're there or not.
And, the "don't bring a gift, buy me a sex toy" thing is really klassy. That would have been my decision maker to begin with.
This too!
One of my friends is getting married homecoming weekend! Hello! Does "America's greatest homecoming celebration" mean nothing to you?! Needless to say, I won't be attending (the wedding).
I love these! I missed one game last year because I was IN a wedding. I seriously debated on telling the bride that I couldn't be there because I had a football game to attend. Then I felt like a huuuuuge biitch, so I didn't and just sucked it up and went to the wedding.
I guess if you don't "do college football" you just don't understand. SMH.
No worries - the game it is! And, like PP said - SIL will probably be relieved that I don't show up.