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Friendship irritations
Hi hi hi
the poll below had me thinkingabout fb and friendship irritations.
I have a friend on there who always talks about their "real friends" who care and see how the person is doing.
this irks me because i'm thinking, "since when have you checked up on me?"basically my beef is when a friend blames you for growing apart when in reality they did nothing either.
does anyone else have any friendship irritations?
the poll below had me thinkingabout fb and friendship irritations.
I have a friend on there who always talks about their "real friends" who care and see how the person is doing.
this irks me because i'm thinking, "since when have you checked up on me?"basically my beef is when a friend blames you for growing apart when in reality they did nothing either.
does anyone else have any friendship irritations?
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hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
Re: Friendship irritations
Heh, can I have family irritations instead? 95% of the relatives on my mother's side make NO effort to keep in contact with me (it's a very tightknit family, but I only ever hear from 2 of my cousins).
However, if I don't send frequent "this is how we're doing, here are photos of the boys, etc" emails, then it means I'm the bad person who doesn't love them anymore. I've been informed that since I'm the one who moved away, the onus is on me to keep in contact and keep the relationships alive. Riiiiiiight.
I know exactly what you mean about friendship irritations. I'd like to think I make a pretty decent effort to keep in touch with friends - not all but quite a bit. Birthday cards, holiday cards, random emails, or Facebook comments/emails... with as busy as I am and as far away as I am, I think I do a darn good job. Due to my job and how far away I live, can't really make it to any parties or gatherings.... so the emails, invites, Facebook chatter has stopped coming. There have been a few friends that have basically given up on most forms of communication because I don't live nearby and I probably never will - despite the fact that I have been known to pull off random two day trips to visit friends, show up at events, etc.
It sucks because I make an effort and they don't, yet I'm the one who's the not worth being friends with because I'm far away? Facebook is great for keeping in touch but it also sucks when you see these get-togethers or friends keeping in touch being rubbed in your face.
I have a few I need to vent - been drowning them for too long with wine.
Friend 1 - only calls she is in town and wants to gtg for a drink or dinner. Any other time if I call to catch up or if I'm in her town, she never answers or returns my call. In the last few months, I've called at least once a month and no return call, nothing! Last message I left, I asked her (nicely) if her phone only worked while she was in my city.
Friend 2 - we used to work together a while back and reconnected on FB. A few msgs and then no word. Then all of sudden, he needs to be cheap and bugs me for a buddy pass on my airline to get to his friend's wedding. He was super needy with probably 50 text messages and a few phone calls and then after the trip, I hear nothing from him - not even a friggin thank you! All I see are things on his FB about how great his trip was. It'll make think twice about giving out any more of my passes.
Friend 3 - has turned into a nutcase (probably already was). She comments and criticizes other friends about things like marriage, kids personal life. And when you ask her about hers (she has a noncommital SO that probably won't marry) her answer is usually, "well, I leave it all up to fate, God will decide my destiny."
Ahh - that feels better. Sorry if I sound a bit bitter - these friends have been sooo frustrating.
SnarlingFox: I have a Friend 1 too. Sucks!!! Friend 2 sounds like a scammer and an @ss. I can't believe some people have the balls to use their friends like that. Friend 3 definitely does not sound pleasant to be around... and I'm sure it makes you wonder what she says about you when you're not around.
- Irish... friend 3 is the crazy girl from work that I told you about a while ago. Ohh I could write stories about the stuff she tells me. I've been trying to keep my distance. And I'm sure she says crap about me too. She's such a freak.
btw - I hope Germany is treating you well. Please stay long enough so I have an excuse to visit one of these days
Ah yes this will feel good.
I can't stand the passive aggressive friends that can never make up their minds about ANYTHING.
"Oh I don't care, you chose" which is always followed by "anywhere but there."
Or the women that wont tell you when they're upset with you, like you have to pry it out of them because you were tipped off by someone they told. It REALLY irritates me. Especially when she's a total brat to her SO when he upsets her. At least respect me enough to let me know when you're mad.
Ah end vent
I remember you telling me about her!!! Still not married huh? I thought they were engaged or something. What a nut.
I'll be here another two years - plenty of time.