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Strange situations
So, H & I were asked to be part of a wedding party... by people we have hung out with socially a grand total of two times.
The woman is someone who works with H, and in fact, had a pretty big crush on him for about the first year H & I dated and even before then. (She was engaged at this time as well.) Their reasoning behind asking us to be in the wedding party is that they don't have many friends to ask (at least, this is what she told H).
The whole thing is just bizarre. I guess I can understand them asking H, because even though they don't hang out socially the woman has known H through work for a long time. But me, I barely know either of them. Bridesmaid dress shopping is occurring this week, and it is going to be so, so awkward... the only one I'll know is the bride, and I'm pretty shy, so, yes. Awkward to the nth degree.
Oh, and to make things *more* awkward: No one at H's work knows we already got married. He didn't tell them because he didn't want anyone to feel bad because they weren't invited (though he could have invited them, but never brought up wanting to, so whatevs).
Anyway. Strange situations you've found yourself in, anyone?
08/13: Started TTC - 07/14: PCOS dx
BFP 09/18/15 - Baby S 05/27/16
Re: Strange situations
Wow that is weird.
Its also weird that your H hasn't told anybody that you guys are already married. I mean if he is really private and just doesn't want them to know his personal life, then that would make sense.
I would decline if I were you... how does your H feel? Does he think its strange?My Bio Updated 10/6/09 with tons more DIY
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I find it a little odd that no one at your H's work knows you two got married... If he works with just a few people, I understand why he might want to keep it quite since they weren't invited, but it's not like he invited half of them and not the other... Besides, haven't people noticed that he wears a ring, now?
In any case, are you going to be in the wedding? What does your H think?
Ooh good question! That's a little weird to me Arj...
Well, he doesn't wear his ring at work, because he works at a Fleet Farm so there's a big chance it could get caught on something/break when he's putting things together/taking things apart/what have you. As for the honeymoon, on his request for time off, he just said it was for vacation. He doesn't like his managers to know about his personal life because then they would want to talk to him about it, and he's uncomfortable with that.
But yeah, I think it's weird too.
As for the wedding... H has kind of already accepted for us before he even told me about it, so I guess I'm doing this. I'm taking this as an opportunity to get to know the bride better and make the most of it, I guess.
08/13: Started TTC - 07/14: PCOS dx
BFP 09/18/15 - Baby S 05/27/16