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A DH survey/QOTD
So I'm curious to hear what your hubbies think about the L word especially since they have all pledged their love to you through marriage.
When did they know they were in love with you? And who said "I love you" first?
What does it mean, in their opinion, if a female tells them they love them and they don't say it back? (doesn't have to be a specific instance but just in general)
My DH said it wasn't one thing that made him realize he loved me, but one day he just noticed that his feelings had changed. I had actually been talking to my BFF about telling him I loved him but he beat me to it and said it first!
He said that if a female told him he loved him and he didn't say it back, then it meant he was saying it just to keep her mouth shut and that he simply didn't love her.
Re: A DH survey/QOTD
My hubby said it to me first. I was dating two guys -- trying to end it with the other and still keep hubby half way at bay. I was scared and didn't know what I wanted. He just insisted he loved me and told me every day for a month or so until I realized I loved him, too!
I asked him how he knew a few times... He said that he'd talked to his dad and his favorite uncle and they'd both said that it was love he felt -- or something like that. I guess I don't really know what it was that tipped the scale! =]
I said it before H did. I usually do still. He always says it back and occasionally says it first.
I knew I loved him long before the words came out of my mouth. I had already sold my house and moved to his town, changed a lot of my life around for him and it was clear (at least to me) that we were going to have a future together. H isn't a man of many words and his actions were quite clear that he was in love with me. I was the first (and will be the only) girlfriend to meet his parents post-high school.
I can totally understand that! That was how I knew I was in love with DH, because it just felt right. Even if we had a big fight and one of us stormed off to our respective apartment, I knew that it wasn't the end compared to past relationships where one fight meant breakup.
We had a whirlwind romance in the beginning. We met at the end of May, started dating by mid June. A few weeks later, while at our local library with my DS feeding the ducks, he looked at me and told me he loved DS, but that he was in love with me. It was all quite romantic.
I asked him recently what made him realize that he loved me and I was the one. He told me that he felt, in his heart, that I was the right person for him, and I made his life complete. And now, I'm getting tears in my eyes..LOL!
DH was the one who said it first. We write "messages" to each other on the other's arm or leg when we want them to know something but don't want to say it out loud. I had written something like 'I like you' and he wrote back 'I love you too'. I looked at him because I hadn't said 'I love you' so I was confused and gave him a look. He wrote it again that he loved me and I asked if he really meant it, which he said he did. It took me a few weeks later to say it back to him.
When we were meeting with our officiant, he asked DH why me. DH responded that I had a presence that no one else he dated had and it is what made him realize that he did, in fact, love me and want to marry me.
We'd known each other for a long time as friends and during those years he was always dating some wacko (and thats putting it nicely hahaha - and um seriously) so the time was never right for us.
When it did happen it was all quck, started dating in Jan '09, engaged Mar '09. I don't remember WHEN it was said but I know he said I Love You first. And I'm not sure how it came about but he said he's always loved me back as far as he can remember. Always wanted to be with me and knew I was the one. Now damn it why didn't he truly act on it YEARS before hahahaha. Well that's not totally true - he did try but i was kinda seeing someone on/off at that time. Who knows what would have happened if he'd tried harder.
I've never once doubted what I felt for him and I thank god every day for him being in my life. We lost a pregnancy a few weeks ago and saying he was amazing through it all is an understatement. We all know our hubbies will be there for us through good & bad, but its mind blowing to actually SEE them in action. totally made me fall in love with him all over again.
OMG I am so sorry! Many thoughts and prayers with you and DH.
I know what you mean about seeing them in action. It always makes the tough times a lot easier to get through.