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What makes great sex?
I was having a discussion with a friend and my sister about what makes great sex in a marriage. I was wondering what others have to say about this.
So what do you think makes sex with someone great?
Re: What makes great sex?
Having similar tastes/goals, sex drives, and a similar outlook. Sharing fantasies/fetishes. Being willing to experiment. Having good communication.
Being willing and happy to please the other person without an expectation of reciprocation--or, moreso, doing things for the other person just because they like it, not because you're intending to "cash in" on the favor later. Not necessarily sacrificing one's own pleasure, but just being generous for generosity's sake.
Also, being knowledgable about your body, their body, and sex as a whole. Knowing enough about sex to have realistic goals and expectations, such that you're able to enjoy it for what it is instead of stressing about what it isn't.
selflessness
Well said jengii!
Perfectly put !
- also you have the chance to learn about your partner for a lifetime
and enjoy every moment of it.
My favorite nights are when we both climax -- when both of us are mentally, emotionally and physically into it. However, I've enjoyed times when that doesn't happen, because I really like being able to please my husband -- I get a lot of emotional satisfaction out of that, and it's not like I'm not having any fun.
When we first got married, and we were still figuring stuff out and I was getting used to it (i.e., pain) -- that was NOT great sex. But we had fun practicing! That's when I realized that great communication is one of the most important ingredients of great sex. If you know what each other's expectations are, then you can both be satisfied.
great sex is when my husband is attentive to my needs in bed. when i can climax with him
It's important to marry your sexual equal in the first place. So many of my friends I hear say that their husband/wife isgreat in every every way but that their are lacking in the bedroom. We have to remember that this person is going to be the last and the only and if there is something missing for one but not for the other, it needs to be addressed. I have seen the lack of sexual satisfaction cause the breakdown of many marriages.
That being said, being "present" when you are with your husband/wife is crucial to the pleasure of both. Pushing the boundaries is also great fun! I have been with my husband now for over three years and it's hotter than it has ever been. We keep waiting for the decline as the honeymoon phase ends but it hasn't happened yet...lol.
Being able to laugh when something completely awful & embarrassing happens. Being able to stop, enjoy it, and then keep going.
It took me a long time to get there. Something is so great when the experience has flaws..
spontaneity, passion, a little bit of humor, and a little roughness.
but maybe that's just me....
If you dont mind me asking, how long after you got married did you stop having pain?
I was a virgin when we got married and I still have some pain.