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NER: weddings and religion
If the marrying couple has similar/same religions - what are the chances of them having a non-religious wedding ceremony?
DH and I have this debate about whether or not our freind's new wife is jewish like him. Dh swears she is, but I say she isn't. PLUS, I know that "jewish" can mean a religion, heritage and even race, so just asking someone isn't gonna necessarily tell you all that info, kwim?
We went to their wedding and it was done by a judge. The ceremony music was christian somewhat (one song was "Jesu Joy of Man's Desiring" or whatever that song is) but they did the glass-stepping-on-thing and something else at the reception that now I can't recall. No "jewish" dancing, no carrying around the bride in the chair, no Chuppa, etc.
AND - we have two friends who are spiritual/christian-ish and they both had non-religious ceremonies. But, they aren't part of churches now and I think all of them are past Catholics so I also feel like they may have felt like they "couldn't" have it be religious.
what are your experiences with this??
Re: NER: weddings and religion
Well, neither H or I are religious, but we had a Jewish-esque wedding, complete with a Rabbi and pretty Jewish songs. Lol. So I don't think that answers your question?
Adam & Shoshie 10-21-07: "My family is big and loud and everybody's in each other's lives and business. ... but wherever I go, they will always be there." * My Blog: Tales of a Hopeful Jewish Mom to Be *
This was us. ?We just didn't feel the need for religion to be involved.?
Deductive reasoning isn't a conservative or liberal attribute. ~epphd
Ditto Shosh - I'd guess one or both of them are not particularly devout in their Judaism.
But that's just a guess, in general I'd go with Alisa's theory. How people feel about their faith and public displays of it is extremely varied. I don't think it's ever possible to tell much by their choice of venue.
Mr.P and I were married in a Catholic Church and only by the skin of our teeth since I had an actual baptismal certificate. We were both raised Christmas and Easter Catholic and never had first communion or went to church regularly (still don't). It was still an important thing to both of us to be married there, not just any pretty church. We have a pretty nuanced and complicated relationship with religion, and I think that's true of a lot of folks.
ditto pesca. a couple's faith does not necessarily correspond with how they plan their wedding. H was raised Catholic. Me, i got it all -- my dad is catholic turn atheist, my stepmom is jewish, my mom is AME and stepdad is a retired AME pastor. but H and I are not religious and chose to have a completely secular ceremony.
meanwhile, we have friends who are just as non-religious as we are, and when it came to their wedding, they made certain to plan a jewish-hindu hybrid ceremony, because they felt those traditions were important aspects of their culture, their families and who they are as a couple.