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Flameworthy - Confused!
This is a psudo name, sorry. I know this situation is flameworthy but I could really use some advice or ... maybe insight into WTF is going on.
Long story short, I met a guy who is kinda a celeb. We had a one night stand. He begged me to go see him the next night but due to work, and my hangover I declined. I've never had one before in my life, but anyway. We parted ways and over the next several months I became aquaintances with some of his friends. I even developed a good friendship with 2 of them. I did not see him for several months, but the next time I did see him he had a girlfriend and ignored me. I was not even sure if he remembered me at the time. I did not cause a scene, instead I pretended to not know him as I talked with his/my friends.
Few months later I see him again and he's single and happy to see me, he starts talking to me and flirting with me. Of course, a few days later we hooked up again- and again the next day. Due to work though he soon had to leave.
A few months later I "think" I see him on the highway. He's waving out the window. I get a call from an "unknown" number 10 minutes later (at 10:30 at night) but did not answer, and no voice mail was left. A week later, on my birthday I got another unknown number at 1am but when my friend picked up there was just background noise.
I see him about a month later and I say hi in passing but he ignores me. Then blatenly stands right in front of me so I flip his hat as a "wtf" and he ignores me still. So I lean in and say "what? we are ignoring me?" and he ignores me. So I walked away and started ignoring him when I saw him.
Next time I saw him he got all pissy and stormed out of the room, one of his friends told me I probably should not be there (I was brought there by someone else, hanging out with this person and ignoring him) He comes back, see's me still there and goes and gets our mutual friend to come and tell me its probably best if I leave. I leave.
Next day my other good mutual friend calls and I tell him what happened. He gets quiet, then asks me to not tell him he said so, but that he talks about me, he likes me and wants to "jump my bones" every time he see's me. They have had to stop him from calling me for a hookup. He see's me in a sexual way, because of who he is he does not want to try to date though. I'm like Well WTF, thats all I wanted, I've never tried or gave any hints I wanted anything else! It does not make sense he'd ignore me like that if he liked me. My friend tells me he's stupid and he has no idea why he did that. Sometimes you just have to let him sulk. I was like "why is he sulking because of me though?" he again tells me he has no idea.
A few days later, this is still eating at me, so I ask my friend if I should ask him what I did to upset him. He said I did nothing, and if I ask it will only make things worse. He wont respond to me and it will only upset me.
WTF is going on? I'm so confused, he throws all logic out the window.
Re: Flameworthy - Confused!
Dunno. Tell TMZ, then tell him that's what he gets when he p*sses you off?
Seriously, I'd forget about him. This is too much confusion and too much drama for a casual fling.
BWAHAHAHA! I can't do that, tempting though.
I also want to know if you guys would confront him even if his friend said not to. I would not be all accusatory. I'd be very polite and ask if I did anything unknowingly to upset him, and that if I did I am sorry, it was not my intention.
As I told my friend, I dont want a relationship with the dude, but the hookup was great. It's more of a "he brought mutual friends into it now and I have no idea why" granted they were his friend long before mine and I guess "owe loyalties" to him, but IMO they should have told him to grow up and stayed out of it.
Dude this is dumb. If you two want to bone great...but if it really is just that then what's this drama about confronting him. If you want to go all Britney Spears and Lindsey Lohan be my guest!
I never expected him to be attached, or even remember me after the first time. "He" continued things. "He" brought our friends into it. I've never said a word to them about us hooking up. I knew the one knew because he was there, but I honestly did not even know the one who told me all this stuff even knew we hooked up till we started talking about it last week.
He acts, and gossips like a middle schooler.
General consenses is "just drop it, dont even bother trying to get a reason for his behavior" then? I'm just the type that wants an answer even if its stupid. Oh well, it will stop eating at me eventually.
too much drama here, leave it alone, go find someone else to bone.
Thanks for going pretty easy on me ladies. I don't know why it bothers me so much.
I already knew it was to much drama, he's a douch, exc... and to run away and not want anything from him anymore, but for some reason it has actually helped to hear just that from you ladies.
I agree with all of this! Also- maybe you should try to sell your scenario to 90210 as a future storyline?
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No no no! Can't you see that this is exactly what he wants?! He is playing games, and this would just be feeding right into them.
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Red flag - D bag!
Are you screwing Spencer Pratt, or Brody Jenner?
Bwahaha!
Brilliant.
Why stroke his ego even more by giving a crap? He probably gets off on it.
Ignore the guy for the rest of your life. If you are ever in the same room with him again and he asks you to leave tell him to f off. Tehn announce to the crowd that he has the smallest penis youve ever seen.
Maybe don't confront him, but, since the mutual friends are now involved, drop in conversation with them--when it makes sense, and in a non-snippy, matter-of-fact way--that it seemed like a good idea at first, but he's just too much drama and too immature to be involved with. Maybe drop a snark about his golf swing.
Let it get back to him (obvs these mutual friends are gossipy b*tches). Then forget about it.
He sounds like a total drama-whore:he's perfect for the industry he's in.
Don't even bother confronting this issue, you'll only be entertaining him. The quicker you move on from him and it, the quicker it will all eventually go away.