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Wedding toast help
Okay ladies, I am in a wedding over labor day weekend, and as the MOH the bride is expecting me to give a toast. I normally have no problem with public speaking, but I have no idea where to even start with this one. I could really use so help and input.
Part of the problem is her FI....I get along with him, but only for her sake. I do not like the man, never have and probably never will. I am truly happy for her because she's happy, but I don't really know what to say in my toast because I have intentionally distanced myself since he has moved in with her, so I feel like I don't really know them as a couple....
What stuck out to you about toasts at your wedding? What made them memorable and meaningful? I really am totally lost, so ANYTHING is helpful right now. TIA - and sorry to post and run, but I have an appointment in a few.
Re: Wedding toast help
My MOH doesn't totally know DH and I as a couple either.
She concentrated a lot on our relationship and talked about how we've experienced a lot of firsts together, "first boyfriend, first kiss, first breakup, first job, first apartment". And she also focused on how she was so happy that I found someone to make me happy and spend my life with.
You can't lose if it's, short, sweet and from the heart.
The only toast that really sticks out for me is the one DHs friend gave about how we were perfect for each other. Since that doesn't seem to really apply in your situation, I don't really know if I have good advice.
Definitely go short and sweet, but the bride can't require you to talk so if you can't come up with anything good to say about the both of them together, I would bow out.
That's the one thing about our toasts that really bothered me. The best man was DHs brother and all he did was talk about H as a child. Then a GM said some words, all about DH, didn't mention me at all. The his friend said some things, which were nice because she said we were perfect together, but mostly again, it was about DH. No one from "my side" wanted to say anything about ME or both of us together, and it made me feel like crap.
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I'm with Sandra and Alise - short, sweet and from the heart. Do you remember when she started dating this guy? Part of my MOH's speech was about how she remembered when I first started liking H and how I would talk about him...and how she had a feeling this was "something special". She said it a lot better than that (her speech seriously rocked), but maybe that helps...?
That's a tough spot, though. Ugh, I hate when friends date/marry jerks.
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This actually is part of the problem I have with her FI. He dated another mutual friend of ours, which is how she even met him. He was so bad to our other friend, played her like a fiddle and broke her heart several times, and treated her like crap when they were together. When this friend started dating him she did it in secret for the first 9 months. As part of the fall out from all of this, I got caught between my two friends and ended up losing a friendship I'd really hoped to have for a life time.
This is exactly what I DON'T want her to feel. My MOH, my lil sis, had the sweetest toast (not that I remember a lot of it b/c my memory is bad) for me, but DH's BM, his brother, kinda dropped the ball on it and DH was really hurt by it. I don't want to do that to my friend. So, I will keep working on it and see if I can't come up with something. I have a few days still... :-/
Thanks, Raeyn. That was really helpful to read!!!