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I am surprised we haven't talked about the Big Divorce..

In an interview with People magazine, Elin mentions she had no idea that her husband was having affairs.  I have to say, at first, I rolled my eyes but you know what? I think I believe her. DH and I talked about this last night - let's say DH became addicted to crack-cocaine - I would certainly notice something was amiss because I would notice a change in his behavior. Let's say he was addicted to crack-cocaine the entire time I have known him (nearly 10 years) - probably, I would have no idea.  Anyway, my point is - he continued to cheat on her all through their courtship, engagement, marriage - no change in behavior - she probably didn't know.

Regardless, I am proud of her for leaving him.

What do you think?

 

Re: I am surprised we haven't talked about the Big Divorce..

  • I feel really bad for her. I can't imagine being married to someone who I thought was a good person but come to find out that they are someone totally different and has basically a secret life. I agree that she didn't really know. It sounds like he has always been secretive about it and she never knew any different.

     

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  • If my DH had affairs with 10s of women? I'd probably know because there'd be so many gaps of time that he can't account for. However, since he's on the road constantly, I definitely think he was able to sneak it past her more easily. I don't blame her at all, and am happy she divorced him.
  • I'm glad she left him, but that she also took some time to get all the information and absorb everything that was going on.  I think in the court of public opinion, she definitely comes out on top for leaving him rather than giving him a second chance.  Had she tried to save the marriage and wait for history to repeat itself, I would have lost all respect for her.  *cough* Charlie Sheen's wife *cough* 

    As far as noticing whether he's having hundreds of affairs or whatever, I think it's more difficult when you're dealing with the level of celebrity that Tiger is. Their relationship was probably always filled with huge gaps of time in which Tiger is doing this or that and it doesn't help that he had enablers, making it easier for him to get away with all the cheating.  A lot of people might wonder how she could not know... but most of us could not fathom what it must be like to be in a celebrity relationship, especially when we are accustomed to seeing our signficant others on a regular basis. 

    I wouldn't go so far as to say I feel sorry for her though.  I think between her big settlement and her positive buzz right now, she's doing pretty well all things considered.  I think getting married to a celebrity in the first place isn't what it's all cracked up to be. 

  • I am glad she divorced his cheating a$$! No one deserves what he did to her. The radio station I listen too was talking about it this morning and one of the guys says the only reason she divorced him is because they were going through a financial harship and she didn't want to give up her lifestyle. I call BS-he lied and cheated their whole relationship; any women with half a brain would leave a man after all that no matter the financial situation.
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  • It makes me sick to think that people actually treat those they "love" like that. I'm so glad she left his @ss. He says he's more sad than relieved that the divorce is final - um, you should've thought about that while you were sleeping around, you hag.

    I'm glad she didn't give him a second chance. If it had been one woman, I would've been OK with her giving him a second chance. Multiples? No effing way dude. I'm glad she's staying in the States, too, to raise their kids - rumors were flying that she planned on leaving the States to go home. No matter what Tiger did to his wife (in terms of cheating), he does deserve to see his kids.

    I'm not surprised she didn't catch the cheating. He was gone all.the.time. Hypothetical: with all the time that H is gone right now, if he was cheating on me, I wouldn't know because everything is the same. We talk at the same time every night, he texts me every morning at the same time...it's all the same. I know he's not cheating, but still. I can see how she wouldn't fully know.

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  • The part that makes me angry, aside from his overuse of the word "certainly" in interviews, is the fact that he said he was "sad" at the dissolution of his marriage.  REALLY?  You're sad Tiger?  Is that one of those "feeling words" that you learned in sex addicts rehab?  How'd that work out for you anyway?

    The reporter even had the gonads to ask Elin if she had been watching any golf since this whole thing went down.  Um, I think if I were her, the only reason I would be able to watch golf on TV (not considering that it is the most yawn-inducing sport to spectate) is just to say that I witnessed this "legend" completely sucking it up professionally for the past several months.  Hey, that must be some sort of consolation prize...  Your ex husband is a cheating douche bag but, at least the scandal and subsequent divorce led to his least successful season to date.  

    The whole thing makes me want to start a She-woman Man Hating Club. 

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  • I was just talking about a similar subject with DH. An acquaintance of mine (mom of 4, 42 yrs old) has a fairly apparent eating disorder. I asked DH how her husband doesn't notice or intervene, and we got to talking about this. If she'd been like this ever since they met, her husband might not realize her out of the ordinary behavior. I think that if there's not a drastic change, things can go unnoticed more than we realize.
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    Anyway, my point is - he continued to cheat on her all through their courtship, engagement, marriage - no change in behavior - she probably didn't know.

    Regardless, I am proud of her for leaving him.

    ITA.  I'm glad she left that d-bag and I feel bad for her and her children.  My mom divorced my real dad b/c of cheating and she once told me that making that choice to leave was the best decision she ever made--I hope Elin is able to see the light at the end of this sh!tstorm tunnel and that she realizes that it's what's best for her and those kids. 
  • Still not completely convinced. If this had been 1 or maybe 2 women I would have agreed, given the sheer number of women AND his touring schedules, how could she not have an earthly clue?

    I am sorry, I just can't get on the complete "Tiger bashing" within this. Yes, he was completely and utterly wrong for his affairs, but was she not talking to him at all? There have to be gaps between his getting off the course and sleeping with 3 women in one night.  

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    given the sheer number of women AND his touring schedules, how could she not have an earthly clue? 

    I don't get it.  The number of women (and that it had been going on their entire relationship), plus his touring schedule is why I think it's very feasible that she didn't know.  Sure, there were gaps between the golf course and sleeping around, but I figure they were filled with flights, press conferences, more traveling, PR stuff, etc etc that's involved with being a sports celebrity....
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