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BIL getting married.....Blah!
My BIL is getting married this fall after dating this girl for only 6 months. BTW not sure if any of you remember he WAS studying in Rome to become a preist, YA, after 4 years in January announced that he's no longer doing that and ooooo has a girlfriend and 4 months after that engaged + wedding THIS year! Oh Joy! 
***I'm bitter about weddings this year due to the fact that I have 8...yes 8 weddings all close family. BM in 2 of them and DH was a best man at another, so when BIL springs up with this, I was pissed, yet couldn't say anything. - 1 in June....2 in July...2 in Sept...2 in Oct...1 in Dec. + on Mat.leave 
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Wedding Date: October, 23, 2010 The dress is strapless, knee length, chiffon - all red with a black sash. F.SIL is worried that the wrong shoe will make the BM dresses to summery. umm....the dress it's self is summery! 
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So her BIG worry is open toe or pointy closed toe (we have to get our own shoes) I don't think she's taking in everyone's opinions. She has 8 BM, 3 don't ever wear heels & 1 will be 9 mos preggo!
What I want to say is "As long as the shoe is black, it should be fine, right? Each girl has their own comfort level with shoes...if you were so worried about the styles not matching then you shouldn't have picked a short dress!"
This wedding has seriously been nothing but work. Oh here's one you all will love, she had a SHOWER & he's having a stag, Money Only was written on the invitation. They already live on their own, and are 34yrs old. Within 4 months are $$$ draining everyone they know. Ohhhh.....what I WOULD say 
Re: BIL getting married.....Blah!
Yikes! That sucks - and is a huge blow to the budget when you are on mat leave.
And that is so rude "money only" on the invitations. Not cool.
And you are right - the dress itself is summery. Not sure where you are (I thought TO) but I got married on October 4 in Windsor a number of years ago and it was COLD that day. (of course - my BIL go tmarried October 7 a couple years later and it was quite warm)...but that dress just doesn't scream "fall wedding" to me.
Wow that is a lot of weddings in one year, and it sucks that it happened the year you are on mat leave.
I think if I got an invitation and it said money only (and it was someone's shower that I had to go to, like a close family member), I would purposefully get them a gift. It's not right to tell people what they should get you, because technically they don't have to get you anything.
8 weddings??? Seriously?? Wow. I feel for you, plus being on mat leave...yikes. I guess you can't decline any of the invitations?
As for the dress/shoe situation...I think you should suggest a black shoe, and explain the fact that not everyone wants to wear heels...especially the 9 month pregnant BM.
Money only on the invitation - ummm, yuck. Not cool. You should give them $5. LOL
Hopefully this does not bring too much stress upon you - good luck!
"Money Only"?!?!?! Excuse me while I beat someone over the head with an etiquette book! *barf*
I think I missed something. Have you been asked to be a BM? You know, it's perfectly alright to decline. I would, given the circumstances and how you feel. It's not fair to them to have a member of their bridal party so bitter about their decision to marry (take it from me, I went through that with my sis's wedding).
I don't envy you. Sounds like they are really impulsive.
I can totally understand why you are stressed about this. Weddings are expensive! I would decline being a bridesmaid myself. Jus because 9 mos pregnant would not be fun for a job like that.Especially if she has 8 BM, she likely wouldnt miss having one of them.
The dress is very summery. Not sure where you live but here October 23 can often have the first snowfall (gotta love Canada) and that dress would be an invitation to freeze to death.
TACKY to put cash only on anything. If that is what they want they should tell the family to suggest cash if anyone asks them what to buy.
I hope everything works out for you