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Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
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Were you too young?
This is kind of realated to one of the poll questions yesterday.
For those who married young:
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married?
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement?
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it?
Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
8/6/11 First 5k! OG&E Expo Run 34:47
9/3/11 Brookhaven Run 5k 34:18
9/17/11 Healthy Sooners Fun Run 5k 33:38
10/15/11 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure 33:31
10/29/11 Monster Dash 5k 32:06 PR!
11/11/11 Veteran's Day Run 11k in Dallas 1:13:15 Instant PR!
1/28/12 Texas Half Marathon 2:38:03 Instant PR!
3/25/12 Earlywine Dash
Re: Were you too young?
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married? No. H and I were 19 and 20, but very mature for our ages. We were backed 100% by both sets of parents and all our family. 19 seems young in general (when I look at most 19 year olds) but I definitely think I was ready for marriage at 19.
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? A few from co-workers at the time... most of them were just unhappy with their current love life (or life overall) and couldn't comprehend a 19 or 20 year old being ready for that level of commitment. Of the people who's opinions mattered to us, no one said we were too young.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? It would totally depend on her, her FI and stage in life.
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married? I didn't answer the poll yesterday but I did marry when I was 21. I don't think I was too young. It was at the right place in my life. It's what was right for DH and I.
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? I actually didn't receive nay of these remarks. Maybe because in my family it was considered a normal thing to be married at 21 or 22. Both of our parents married at young ages.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? I think if she knew it was the right thing for her to do and if she was in the right place in her life then I wouldn't object. I would have to know that she would be well taken care of and that she was mature enough to handle all that marriage offers.
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married? I was 20, DH was 21. While I don't regret H and I getting married when we did, I can definitely see why people think that age is too young. College would have been a lot easier to finish if we had waited. Also, it seems like you change so much during that time period in your life. I know DH and I have changed a lot, but I feel like we are great at communicating with each other so it hasn't been an issue with us. We have kind of evolved together, if that makes sense. If you get married young and don't communicate well with each other, I can see one or both changing into someone the other person doesn't like. But, I suppose everyone is constantly changing no matter what age you are, but it just seems like you change/grow the most when you're around that age.
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? A lot. None of our family thought we were too young. Just co-workers, actually just about every single one of my co-workers.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? As long as they have a mature relationship and understand what changes that decision might bring, I'd be okay with it.
Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
8/6/11 First 5k! OG&E Expo Run 34:47
9/3/11 Brookhaven Run 5k 34:18
9/17/11 Healthy Sooners Fun Run 5k 33:38
10/15/11 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure 33:31
10/29/11 Monster Dash 5k 32:06 PR!
11/11/11 Veteran's Day Run 11k in Dallas 1:13:15 Instant PR!
1/28/12 Texas Half Marathon 2:38:03 Instant PR!
3/25/12 Earlywine Dash
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? Not really. I got a few "are you sures", but other than that I was pretty headstrong and I don't think anyone was about to tell me otherwise. Once I had my mind made up, that was it.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? I don't have a daughter, but if my son came to me at 20, I'd tell him to strongly consider finishing school/trade school and go sew his wild oats. Once you get married--that's over! If I'm not supporting him still/paying for things, then by all means--get a wife.
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married? Yes and no. I was very mature for my age and knew we'd be living the same life style together whether we were married or not so I didn't see why not to get married. I think college would have been a lot easier if we weren't married, but we are almost at the end of it. We're gonna make it! I also think that if we weren't married, we probably wouldn't be together. In our hard times, it would have been so easy to walk away, but being married made us stick together and work things out. I would hate to be missing out on where our relationship is now because we gave up.
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? Uhhh yes! I got engaged at the beginning of my senior year of high school. I didn't get a "Hey congrats, I heard you're getting married". I got a "Hey I heard you're knocked up". I wasn't, people just assumed.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? If her level of maturity was were mine was and she had a good plan in place then I wouldn't mind.
I got married at 25, but I was recently thinking that my little sister is also 25 and I think that is so young. A college friend just recently got engaged and I realized many of them are not married yet. 25 does seem young now.
I have another sister who is 22 (still in college) with a serious bf. She said a long while ago she though it was important to graduate college and live on your own before getting married, but she seems more mature so 25 wouldn't seem so young for her.
I think the age was good for us though. We graduate college, lived on our own (I even moved to another state), were in good places with jobs/lives, etc.
I don't think I was too young. I was 22 and dh was 23. We received loads of skepticism from my extended family (that is another long story) but overall support from my immediate and his.
If I had a daughter that wanted to marry... hmm... it would depend on her as a person. Certain aspects are extremely important to me, being finished with college and maturity level. I also would need to assess her said husband. Of course this is all hypothetical as I have no children!
Yes- I was too young at 24. It wasn't because I was immature- it was because I hadn't launched fully into the adult world. We're very lucky that we didn't drift apart during my 6 years of grad school. That happened to many of my peers. The experience changed us. Luckily, my grad school (and our grad school friends) changed DH, too.
By the way---although I was an "old bride" compared to most of you, and normal among my midwestern friends, my grad school peers from the coasts thought I was like a child bride or something when they found out I was married.
I was almost 30 when DH and I got married - DH had just turned 24.
To be honest, I thought he was way too young to get married. Even though he is extremely mature (much more so than I am, that's for sure!) he was just starting law school and I really thought he needed to sow more oats while he had the chance especially considering he didn't date much before me. To be honest, it is my fear that sometime in the future he will regret having married so young. I wouldn't change my twenties for anything - I did an exceptional amount of growing and learning...and everything and I feel sad that he didn't have the same opportunities. To compensate for this, I make a clear effort to make sure we go out and get wild and crazy often. Poor former frat boy will never be able to keep up with me!
Looking back, do you think you were too young to get married? Honestly, I think we both were. I was 22, and H was 23, when we got married. The first year of marriage was ridiculously rough because 1. we weren't in the same city, and 2. our maturity level - even though we were already parents - was not where it should've been. I feel like we've both matured a lot in the 18 months we've been married, and NOW is the time we should've gotten married.
Did you get a lot of "You're too young to be getting married!" statements when people found out about your engagement? Pretty much, yeah. We got engaged in November '07 (at 21/22) and married in March '09 (at 22/23) - but people still thought we were married too young. I kinda felt it, too, and we had talked about putting off the wedding...until we found out JJ was on his way. I felt more pressure to get married after getting pregnant than before, so we decided to get married on our set wedding date.
What if your daughter wanted to get married at the age you got married, how would you feel about it? I'd be a little iffy about it and would seriously talk to her about waiting. I'd talk to her about it and get her feelings, but I wouldn't force her to wait if she felt she was ready.
I'd like to add that I don't regret marrying H at all. I love him more now than I ever have, and we've been through so much together that we've become closer and stronger than ever. I just think we should've waited a little bit longer to get married - and not let the pressure of being parents before husband/wife sort of rush us down the aisle.