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How do you sleep?
Recently national news reports have announced that new findings indicate that married couples who sleep separately tend to be more satisfied in their marriages vs. married couples who sleep together in the same bed.
Nesties - what is your opinion on the subject? How do you sleep?
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This! Before DD came along whenever DH wasn't in bed yet I used to wake up randomly. Once he's in bed I sleep soundly. I think the studies that have couples who sleep separately do well is because maybe someone snores or has some other issue that keeps the other person awake. Thus, making the person tired during the day and cranky, which in turn can make them snappy at spouse.
We usually sleep separately. My H: comes to bed very late due to his work (between 2-5 am), he is noisy, he snores terribly, and I am a very light sleeper who has trouble falling back asleep when woken.
We do sleep together sometimes but it is usually not a totally positive experience for me and I am totally wiped out the day after.
I know this bothers my H to some degree but I am fine with it. I need my sleep!
Same bed but separate blankets. I'm always cold and he's always too hot. This way neither of us have to be the covers hog.
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I was going to say almost the exact same thing. H gets up at 3 am to go to work and I don't usually get home until 12 or 1. So sometimes I try to stay up to see him off to work otherwise we don't see much of each other til Sunday when we both have the day off. If I had my choice though under normal working hour conditions, I would choose seperate beds. He sleeps diagonal, takes all the blankets, is a furnace, and puts his leg over my legs which drives me crazy because I can't move. I love him dearly but he wakes me up constantly, even though I'm a heavy sleeper. He also does that thing where I move away from him a little bit and he just moves closer til i'm on the edge of the bed with nowhere else to go. At which point I go to the couch. And I would LOVE to sleep all day, but no can do with kiddos. A nap, sure, but not all day. I think that's what I want for my birthday:think I'll get it?
Duplicate post.
Can anyone find the study mentioned by the OP or any news reports citing the study? The only thing I can find is a recent study that indicated that ~25% of couples sleep separately. However, the article doesn't appear to say that these couples were more satisfied in their marriages. In fact, recommendations were made in most news reports that couples sleeping separately should seek out solutions for the underlying problems causing the separate beds, e.g. snoring.
Here is one of the news reports I saw:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Sleep/sleeping-spouse-solutions-tips-share-bed/story?id=11478838
This. I hate sleeping by myself. Right now since I'm single I have too, but its nothing like the comfort of having someone beside you hold all night (well sometimes if its not too hot or they snor, LOL!).
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This! DH is either out of town for work or is working opposite hours of me. So when we get the chance to be sleeping/home at the same time, we have to sleep in the same bed.
i sleep awesome and our marriage is fantastic. i see no reason to sleep apart.
sometimes i think people who 'do studies' need to get some hobbies.
We sleep together. I hate sleeping by myself now. Unless I'm drugged up, then I don't care.
H gets really hot in his sleep, he tosses and turns and subsequently destroys the bed, and sometimes hogs the covers, but I wouldn't dream of sleeping apart because then I'd miss all of his wonderful sleep talking escapades.
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haha my dh speaks in his sleep too! the other day he was asking me for fries lol..he's something
I wonder who did this study and what it was all based on.
I could see where if one of you was a really loud snorer or moved a lot at night and the other was a light sleeper and was always disturbed by this where it would benefit both parties to sleep separate so everyone got sleep and sleep= happy.
I'm a sleep talker too which I'm sure entertains my husband also.
I have too many stories to even begin to tell them.
EDIT: I quoted the wrong person. This was to whoever responded about the sleep talking.
I would love to have a separate bedroom from my husband. He's an insanely light sleeper (ice maker will wake him up), and I can sleep through anything and like to wake up at the butt crack of dawn. With him being a terrible sleeper, he likes to sleep until the very last minute possible.
We've discussed it, and if our next house is big enough, we'll probably do it.
I actually saw the report first on the NBC evening news. Here is just a tad of what they spoke of... enjoy!
http://www.mnn.com/lifestyle/health-well-being/videos/more-married-couples-sleeping-apart
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38748587
here are some other articles, not necessarily research...(perhaps I used that term a little loosely here..my bad!)
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/09/12/lw.sleep.alone.when.married/
http://updatednews.ca/?p=30136
Thank you all for weighing in on the subject. I found it very intriguing! I personally think there is no right or wrong answer here, what works for one marriage may not work for another. It's all in personal choice.
May you all have a great nights sleep tonight!!
We often sleep separately. My husband often works at night, and he snores like crazy. We've been to a few doctors about it, and tried a few anti-snoring tools, but nothing works. There have been many times in which we've slept separately due to his snoring.
I would prefer if we could sleep together all the time, but really, I don't know if it's a big deal. When you're asleep, you don't know who's beside you anyway. We usually try to fall asleep together (when he's home) and if he's snoring too much, I'll leave and sleep in the guest bedroom. I don't think our relationship suffers for it. I wouldn't be happier in my marriage sleep deprived from laying beside him awake all night, and numerous doctors have told us they can't fix his snoring, so what else can we do?