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Position advice
My fianc? and I are still learning the ropes with sex; learning what works and doesn't work for us, learning how to turn each other on, etc. We were both virgins when we started dating and subsequently lost our virginity to each other.
We pretty much just use one position every time we have sex -- him on top with my legs wrapped around him. It does the job most of the time, but when we're at it for a while, it tends to hurt his knees and my legs get REALLY sore if I have to hold them like that for too long. The problem is, we can't seem to settle on any other position that's comfortable and still works. We've tried with me on top, but we just can't seem to get the rhythm right that way. We really do feel like the blind leading the blind.
My question to you guys is -- what are some good, satisfying, but simple positions that we could try?
Re: Position advice
Since you're most comfortable with missionary, you could try variations on that. Maybe try laying on your back with your butt at the edge of the bed and him standing. Put one (or both) of your ankles on his shoulders and stimulate your clitoris as he thrusts.
Doggie style can be a lot of fun, but I have trouble getting off without direct clitoral stimulation. Just remember to try that if you try doggie style.
No matter what, be patient with whatever new positions you try. They're all going to feel very different than your regular position. Try them several times before giving up on them. Sometimes something as simple as putting your leg or arm in a different spot will change the sensations enough that the position works for you.
Here is a site that might help you.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/
There are lots of positions on there, what may be comfortable to someone else may not be for you
I did not love being on top until I figure out how to make it really work for me and get into a rhythm. And that just took doing it a lot before I got it right. Now it's my favorite position hands down.
I agree about doggie btw. Really fun, feels great, but I've never orgasmed in that position.
Practice. Practice. Practice.
In the mornings, we like it where Im on my side and he is on his knees entering from behind. Apparently it rubs the sensitive part of his shaft.
Every now and then, give girl on top a try. Eventually, you will find a rhythm that works for you.
Girl on top is one of my favorites. Hear is some advice on that. Either a/ you do the thrusting. Which isn't really thrusting as it is rocking back and forth. The guys love this because you are in charge and it usually leads to your boobs swinging in front of his face. Or B/ you sit on your knees and lean forward, to where your chests are touching. Push your butt into the air high enough to when he's laying down, he's still in you but just the tip. Then he just thrusts up an down.
But it sounds like getting a book should be in order. Also if you google animated sex positions, there are all kinds of sites that give a little computer/cartoon image of what the position looks like in motion.
Also check out reverse cowgirl. Its you on top but with you facing his feet.
My husband and I have trouble with this position also. As other people said, my best advice is practice, and don't be afraid to laugh at yourselves in the process. H and I will often collapse into laughter when we try a new position for the first time.
One of our faves is me lying on my back, with my butt on the edge of the bed with him standin in front of me. Sometimes I have my feet on the floor. Sometimes I wrap my legs around his waist. It allows him to go deep, and it feels wonderful for both of us!