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bj's and coming.... (:
I have never been able to give a bj and let my H go in my mouth. I have this trama from when I was younger and being forced to do it. Well.... I'd like to think I am over that by now and I WANT to do it for my hubby, but I cant do it!!!
One of my friends had the idea of using a condom while going down on him and then all the stuff wont go into my mouth. As great as that sounds for me, I cant imagine it feeling all that great for him because I'd be using a condom.
Any advice? Help? Ideas? I really want to do this for him.... but I just cant bring myself to do it. I have only done it maybe 3 times my whole life. And every time it has been this horrible experience and I have thrown up afterwards. Any and all help would be AWESOME!
Re: bj's and coming.... (:
Well Im not sure what to say about the "trama from when I was younger and being forced to do it".
But, to answer your question, sometimes I close my throat off by pulling the base of my tongue up to contain the flow in my mouth. Then when he is done, simply swallow like its water. Maybe part of your issue is psychological. Idk...
Im not even sure if you should be attempting this considering your background.
I know that you clarified that the trauma wasn't the issue, but it sounds like it may still be affecting you at least a little, maybe even subconciously. I would seek counseling to work through that part of it b/c most likely that is playing a pretty large roll. Even though it's in the past, trauma can really mess with you if you don't get some help. A counselor may be able to help walk you through ways that you can get to the point of giving a bj to your hubby without having reservations about it.
Also, I wouldn't worry about him not liking it b/c of a condom. I can't imagine he wouldn't be on board with a condom, especially if he knows about your past. Talk to him. There may be something he can do as well that would help put you at ease. Flavored condoms might be a good option.
A few years back I watched a TV prog here in the UK which showed a London prostitute training young women to apply a condom using only the mouth,...she placed the condom in her mouth, went down on the man and rolled it on wioth her lips/tongue...aparently men can't detect the condom going on. The young women in the group practiced on bananas and cucumbers until they were very expert. My nextdoor neighbour at the time was outraged by the prog,..he turned it off (his wife turned it back on!) left the room and complained by phone immediately.........
....You can still give an excellent bj and at the last moment slide your mouth down the underside of the shaft so that the man shoots onto his belly........
But if you do want to try I agree with one of the PP. Just move your tongue up to block it from going down your throat. Then you can either decide to swallow it or simple excuse your self and spit it out.
Is it absolutely necessary for him to have to come in your mouth? I barely ever let DH do that, since I just don't like the taste of ejaculate. I have to be in an extra-nice mood to do that.
Does your DH demand that he get to ejaculate in your mouth if you're doing that to him? If so, we have a problem here. You should be able to get him good and close to coming without catching his ejaculate in your mouth. You should be able to get him off with your hand, especially if he lets you know it's going to happen.
GL!
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LMAO; True.