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Kinda sad
I try not to be too much of a whiner around here but I need to know if I'm overreacting.
Background: All of my oldest bestest friends are spread out, mostly in north carolina and surrounding areas. DH and I moved to Naples knowing no one except an old fraternity bro of DH. Through frat bro and his wife, we met two other couples that are basically our "group" of friends. We also hang out with other people often, and lately we've been with other friends more often than the group (but haven't had any parties or been anywhere cool, mostly just doing things that others invited us to do).
So Monday night I was on facebook and see pictures where one couple of our group had a bday party for their 1 y/o baby. At first I didn't even question why we weren't invited because I assumed it was family or just baby friends, but then I saw the rest of the group there! We aren't bff with them (neither is one of the other couples that was there in the pictures), but we always invite them to every party we have -- including our wedding, btw.
I've been upset about that, and then I just got an email from a different girl (in the group) that said "Hey... we're having a get together Friday for [husband], come if you can." I may be reading into her tone since it was an email, but I felt like it was kind of obligatory and not like they actually want us there.
WTF happened here? DH and I are totally fun people, and I've always prided myself on being a good friend. Last time we were all together was my birthday party and we had such a great time. Am I being crazy?
DISCLAIMER: I just started AF so if i'm just being emotional and overreacting, please feel free to put me in my place
Re: Kinda sad
I wouldn't read too much into that email, sounds innocent to me!
The baby couple may have thought that since you aren't TTC yet, they wouldn't want to force it on you (I definitely kept quiet about wedding stuff around my single girlfriends because I didn't want to appear pushy. However, if you notice them acting more cold around you, I'd just be honest and ask what's up.
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Ok I was definitely being overdramatic about the email. We wrote a few back and forth and were totally normal. You know how you can make things up in your head once one thing makes you feel a little different than normal?
I guess the party wouldn't bother me so much if the other two couples who also are child-less weren't there. I suppose I should give them the benefit of the doubt for now, considering DH is scared to even hold their child (as was I for the first 4 or 5 months of her life).
Guess I'll let it go for now...no sense getting upset about it!
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I was also going to say the e mail didn't sound out of the ordinary, other than the "come if you can," maybe meaning if you aren't busy doing something with other friends outside the group?
As for the baby's birthday party maybe it's because they didn't think you were all that interested in baby-stuff lately? Or are you and DH close to the child? I'm assuming if you aren't BFFs with this couple they may have not invited you because the other 2 couples spend time with the baby, or possibly because they've known the other couples longer?
I can understand feeling a little left out at the moment though. Last spring several of the couples in my "group" got together and went to Vegas the weekend of my birthday. Nobody ever said a word to me about it so I was pretty hurt and disappointed, wondering why nobody bothered to include me in on the trip, especially since it was right around my birthday. My friend in FL was the one who told me about it because she saw the other 2 couples talking about it on FB and decided she wanted to join them. I didn't have FB yet but was still hurt that nobody thought to send me a regular ol' e mail or phone call. I sulked for the rest of the day but the next day I got over it and was back to myself again.