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how do you handle rude colleagues?
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We have an open office plan so I share my work space with my bosses, another assistant, and two execs. There is a man who comes in to our office frequently from another office, always sits in our area, and is a complete and total jerk. He constantly insults me in a joking manner and is just rude. He does things that really irk me all the time. For example, today he was on a conference call and I was being too loud for him so he snapped his fingers at me, poked me, and waved at me to hush up. My boss saw that one and basically told him to go suck a lemon but if my boss isn't around to defend me, should I say something to guy or just let it roll because it doesn't really matter?
Re: how do you handle rude colleagues?
Do you have a conference room? Next time he's on a call and tells you you're being too loud - direct him tot he conference room.
Also- ask your boss! Tell your boss this is an ongoing issue and you'd like to know his advice on how to handle this guy.
Past that, start saying "Why would you say that?" and if he says "I'm just joking!, you say "I dont' find that funny". "Please don't touch me again".
And w/ all of this, be firm about it and be direct. Look straight at him. If you go into a moment of an uncomfortable silence, LET IT! It will probably make HIM more uncomfortable than you!
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This is my question. In my experiences, if you continue to let someone be rude, they will continue to do so and it will only get worse. You have to "put your foot down" or else it will never change. At least your boss will say something but I think you should also, as long as he isn't a superior. Superior or not I'd pull him aside and ask him does he have an issue with me and tell him that I don't appreciate his comments and rudeness.
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Next time he snaps at you while he is on a call, walk over to him and say plainly and loudly, "If it is too loud in here for you there is an open conference room across the hall. Suggest you go there." Turn around and walk away.
Next time he insults you lin a joking manner look himin the eye and in a strong, even voice say, "I get that you think you are being funny but actually you are being offensive. If you'll excuse me, I have work to do."
Practice in front of a mirror. Say "you" more than "I" to turn it back on them.
Whatever you do, don't be bitchy or play the victim. If you can learn to let things slide off your back and stand up for yourself in an assertive, level-headed manner, jerks like this will come to respect you. They'll stop being rude because they respect you and not because your boss had to stick up for you and tell them to back off, which, as you know, will reflect badly on you.