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Suggestions/advice?--UPDATED
**They're getting divorced. It's official. I'm helping her move her things out of their house on Saturday. I am going to make T come with to deal with any disturbances we may or may not encounter. Wish us luck.**
My BFF text me this morning asking for marriage counseling recs. I guess things have gotten really bad with her husband. She hasn't really told me the details, but she did tell me that her husband had made her walk home from a restaurant they were eating at at 2am after they'd been at the bar.
That's really all I know. She was at work so we couldn't talk. She said she's pretty much done but he wants to do marriage counseling as a last ditch effort. I told her that if she wants to talk about it I am here for her, and if she needs a place for her and her kiddo to crash she can stay with us.
What else do I do? I feel like I'm not being very supportive.
Re: Suggestions/advice?--UPDATED
I know there are 3 sides to every story but hellz to the nah!! I'm sure drinking was involved in this situation but what man does that??
That's a tough one. I think you are being a good friend by offering a place for her to go if she needs it. I think if she wants to talk about it, just be supportive and listen. I've been in this situation before and made the mistake of siding with my friend - at the time, I felt like I had done the right thing but the couple worked things out and now it's awkward because she thinks I don't like her husband (which I don't but that's another story). I just wish I had kept some comments to myself.
Just being there for her will mean a lot and offering her any resource info you might have will be appreciated. Maybe check in with her later (quick call, text, or email) to ask how things are going and that you're thinking of her. Good luck!
This surprised me too. No matter how mad J might ever be with me, he never in a million years would do this. What a d!ck!
I think you're doing well. Just let her know you're there for her. Maybe offer to take her out for drinks or dinner some night so she can talk it out?
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