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How would you handle this?
MIL is a helicopter grandma. She hovers over M all the time. Even when we are in their backyard and M is just walking over to the garden she has her hand behind her back kind of helping her I guess. But it really does drive me up the wall. I wouldn't consider myself a helicopter mom. I do stand near by if she is doing something that she hasn't really done before (ex: we were at the playground and she was climbing on a bigger kid playarea but she finally got the hang of it).
But I really don't know how to say something or even if I should. I like M to figure out how to do things and she does. But when you help them all the time like climbing stairs how are they supposed to learn? MIL is such a nice lady and she does it with the best of intentions but it's just one of those things drives me nuts. It kind of feels like maybe I'm not doing such a great job of watching over M.
Re: How would you handle this?
I can understand how that's annoying, but I'd leave it alone. I would rather have an overprotective grandma than one who doesn't pay enough attention.
And, LOL @ Helicopter Grandma!
I know it's annoying, but I'd leave it alone, too. My mom's kinda like that, but JJ is always under watchful eye, and I can breathe easier when she's with him. My MIL is a whole 'nother story, but oh well.
My mom is this way with my neice. I really don't mind it but what really drives me nuts is she doesn't do it with my 2 nephews. She shows favortism a little much (like people who just meet my mom can tell she is like this) and that is what bothers me.
To actually answer your questions, I to would just leave it alone. I know my MIL and her husband will probably be the same way when we have a baby and yeah it will probably get my nerves but I won't say a word.
The only thing I can think of is to distract her. When she's hovering and M is perfectly safe, tell her to come over by you for a couple of seconds and ask her what she thinks about decor for your dining room table. Or what you should do outside on the front porch for fall. Or a great meal your H would like because you want to do something special.
Maybe she'll get distracted and realize M is perfectly capable of doing some things on her own.