9 to 5
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Bad Work Situation
I am a lurker on this board but I recently have had a bad situation at work that I just need to vent about! I have worked for a small department of a large organization for the past four years. Over that time period I have been given opportunities to take on a lot of responsibilities and to act almost as a middle manager between my colleagues and my supervisor. I have a great relationship with all of my colleagues and with my supervisor.
Last year I became qualified to actually get the job of "middle manager" (I am being vague here on purpose with titles, etc.). My supervisor and I have always had a great relationship (or so I thought) so I have basically been unofficially doing the position of middle manager while building my resume. For the past year as I have asked about the possibility of this position I was told that her hands were tied and we were not able to get that position at our department, as per her supervisor. A "middle manager" position became available at another department in our organization, I interviewed and was offered the position.
Immediately after being given that position my boss began to down-talk the other department and my soon to be supervisor. She began to blame my impending departure for her failing to get certain things done (when quite honestly she had been planning for me to get that position all along as she knew I was a strong candidate after talking to the interviewers-so it was not the reason for her to not get those things done). The final straw is the fact that two days before my last day of work she made mention, in my presence, that she was going to be putting up an ad to fill the position of middle manager at that department!
I honestly am sick over the entire situation. I love the people I worked with, the clients I worked with, and the entire atmosphere. Over the four years I worked there there was absolutely no animosity between myself and my boss. I just hate the fact that I have worked so hard to get this position, getting my Master's Degree in the field and doing all I could to help out in my department, and now not only is my former boss down talking my new place of employment but she is also turning around and giving someone else the position that she had always talked about me having.
I know that this isn't really a question, and I appreciate anyone who read this but I am just having such a hard time being excited for my new job this week because of these circumstances. I should be able to be proud of my accomplishments, but I am only upset about the way things ended.
Last year I became qualified to actually get the job of "middle manager" (I am being vague here on purpose with titles, etc.). My supervisor and I have always had a great relationship (or so I thought) so I have basically been unofficially doing the position of middle manager while building my resume. For the past year as I have asked about the possibility of this position I was told that her hands were tied and we were not able to get that position at our department, as per her supervisor. A "middle manager" position became available at another department in our organization, I interviewed and was offered the position.
Immediately after being given that position my boss began to down-talk the other department and my soon to be supervisor. She began to blame my impending departure for her failing to get certain things done (when quite honestly she had been planning for me to get that position all along as she knew I was a strong candidate after talking to the interviewers-so it was not the reason for her to not get those things done). The final straw is the fact that two days before my last day of work she made mention, in my presence, that she was going to be putting up an ad to fill the position of middle manager at that department!
I honestly am sick over the entire situation. I love the people I worked with, the clients I worked with, and the entire atmosphere. Over the four years I worked there there was absolutely no animosity between myself and my boss. I just hate the fact that I have worked so hard to get this position, getting my Master's Degree in the field and doing all I could to help out in my department, and now not only is my former boss down talking my new place of employment but she is also turning around and giving someone else the position that she had always talked about me having.
I know that this isn't really a question, and I appreciate anyone who read this but I am just having such a hard time being excited for my new job this week because of these circumstances. I should be able to be proud of my accomplishments, but I am only upset about the way things ended.
Re: Bad Work Situation
Our little Irish rose came to us on March 5, 2010
Don't drink the water.
Disclaimer: I am not an MD. Please don't PM me with pregnancy-related questions. Ask your doctor.
Thank you both for the replies! I know there really wasn't much to say it is obvious she was trying to keep me down for some reason, but it was just a hard thing to realize 2 days before switching jobs because I honestly had not had that feeling before.
I know that this move is really the best thing for me and it is THE ONLY way I will be able to continue to move up the ladder. I just needed to vent it here because quite frankly I plan to continue climbing the ladder with this organization so I can't let anyone in my professional life know my true feelings about the situation.
Thanks again!
Ditto. It's not necessarily the case that your boss is being a jerk by just now posting for a middle manager in her(his?) department - it's possible that since you were doing so much of the work "unofficially" and are now leaving, your boss is realizing that a warm body really is required to be in that position full-time. Alternatively that work falls back to your boss, so your departure might just have been a kick in the butt to motivate your boss to pressure the decision-makers to greenlight the position.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012