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Bad Monday Blues
I feel really terrible and would like to just tell someone this, but I am at work... so it's up to you lucky (or maybe not so much) ladies. Here goes.
DH and I got a dog together before I moved in with him. Now that we are married and DH is on third shift, I have to sleep by myself in the new apartment. Well, silly me decided to try to keep the doggie in the room with me last night. He woke me up between 2 and 3 by jumping off the bed, rolling around on the floor, and licking himself like crazy. A very grumpy me got out of bed and banished him to his kennel. I Could. Not. fall back asleep. I then woke up earlier than I needed to and couldn't fall back asleep again. DH got home around 7:15 and took over the bathroom for a good 20 minutes... takes up very valuable shower time. Then, I have to call my gyno's office to tell them I can't make my appointment this morning because I don't have my insurance switched over yet. It's the second time I have had to call (for other reasons) but I am so mad at myself for not having that done in time!
On top of that, I really did not want to come to work this morning. I need a new job. I am soooo not a 8:30-5 office girl 
I kind of dread it every morning.
The absolute worst part is that I snapped on my poor DH because of all this. Obviously, non of it was his fault. He was trying to be nice to me this morning. Why am I such a grumpy, mean person? I feel like I'm not acting like a newly-wed bride. Just a spoiled brat. I wish I could call him and apologize, but he has to sleep now so he can be up for work tonight. I know that I hurt him, and I just feel awful.
Thanks for listening girls. If you read that, you deserve some nummy, warm brownies. Does anyone have suggestions on how to not snap, when you know you are about too? I would appreciate them. Thank you again.
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Re: Bad Monday Blues
I'm so sorry to hear about your not very good start to the week! I'm sure your husband understands that you didn't mean what you said to him.
Don't worry about the doctor's office--I had to push my dentist appointment back for a year because I didn't know when I would be starting to receive my benefits. I'm sure they were tired of it, but they've got worse stuff to deal with than one girl rescheduling--you probably made someone else's day when they unexpectedly got the appointment slot!
As far as snapping, I find it helps when I can recognize that I am grumpy and take a moment before I say anything. Just a few seconds to think, "Is this really what I want to say?" Often, I find that I probably shouldn't say what I am about to! Also, taking a deep breath and closing my eyes for ten seconds or so helps to readjust my mood. Not drastically, but enough so that I can hold my tongue, if necessary. Then I get on Facebook and post a cryptic message.
Jeffie, than you so much for understanding! I know that my DH probably knows that I don't want to hurt him, I just wish that I hadn't.
Thanks for saying that about the appointment too. I know if someone canceled their appointment before me, and I got to go early- or on time! - I would be pretty happy. I hadn't even thought of that though.
Thanks for the tips, too. It sounds really helpful to close your eyes for a moment and try to look at the situation openly- I will really try to do that. I must admit that I put a dumb Facebook status up already
I do feel the tiniest bit better. I'm going to try to think more positively for the rest of the day. And remember to close my eyes and ask those questions.
We all have mornings like that, your H will understand.
Just try and take a deep breath. Maybe mornings when you feel snappy count to three before you answer a question or something, giving you some time to do that brain-mouth filter thing? I've never quite mastered that so I don't know I'm any help.
I think we all need a nummy warm brownie just because it's Monday! Sorry your day started out sucky.
As for snapping...I know myself well enough to know that I will snap. End of story. So my new strategy is just to be upfront about it:
"DH, I'm tired, I'm grumpy, and I will snap at you. If you talk to me I will be snappy. If you don't talk to me, I will be snappy because you're not talking to me. I apologize upfront and I love you." Then snap away!
Maybe I could combine ideas. Close my eyes and breathe for a few seconds. Ask myself if I should say what I am thinking- and then still warn him, just in case!
Really, though, I am trying to get better about this kind of thing. Thank you everyone for being understanding. Brownies for all!!!
V, I hope your day got better and you were able to talk to DH!
I had one of those weekends too, so I know how you feel. I've been tired from work, overwhelmed with packing and trying to get our finances combined. Its a lot of changes, and while they are great, they were making me very emotional. DH knows you and loves you and he'll understand that you have bad days. What I learned is to try to not take it out on DH and tell him how I am feeling.