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Has anything changed?
It's been just over a month, and I've been asked this question a lot... I also feel bad about my answer. I can't think of anything that's changed, DH have been together for 11 years, and lived together for the bulk of it. We both have been getting this question and are having a hard time thinking of things that have changed, so I'm posing the question to you... when you got married did you feel like anything changed?
If you can't thing of anything that's changed, how did you handle the question?
Thanks ladies!!!
Re: Has anything changed?
THIS! OMG, Sarah! You just put exactly how I feel into words! I'm going to have to memorize this
This is kind of how I feel also. Being married hasn't changed anything specific, but there is something different. I can never pinpoint what it is... is there more commitment? are we more of a team? I don't know.
i don't get this anymore, but when we did people insist that i was lying. i told that my named change and that was it. we lived together already, i was on his medical, and we shared bank accounts.
something changed, but in a wonderful way, but there was no way to explain.
Meghan and Jonny- Puerto Vallarta, Mexico - May 1, 2010
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I agree with Sarah...but in my case I think I can pinpoint the differences.
Nothing change in our lives we were still the same doing the same things we liked to do and our day to day was still the same. But this are the things that I feel are a bit different:
1. A weird sense of belonging...like it's not his family and my family..now is our family of 2 and then everyone else...like instead of feeling part of my family I feel more part of this new family I have with him.
2. There is no sense of "if something goes wrong I can just pack my bags"...I mean if something was seriously wrong I would (as happen with my first marriage), but there is a sense of a bigger responsibility. Like before I could just leave...now I have a feeling in the back of my mind that I need to be more patient with him and that we will have to work a little more with each other whenever we have problems.
3. The knowledge that I need to be more mindful of how my decisions are gonna affect him.
Does that make sense...nothing have change, but there are those unconscious thoughts in the back of my mind.
I usually just tell people that nothing is different. However, I feel exactly like this.
ok... I think I know what you guys are talking about, DH was talking on the phone and said something about his wife, and when he got off the phone he was grinning and said "your my wife".... and I knew what he was talking about, whenever I call him my husband, it rolls off my tongue like I've been calling him that for years, but inside I just want to start saying "he's my husband, I'm calling him my husband because he's my husband, we just got married" and I get all giddy. So I guess I'm going to start answering it with now I get to call him my husband.
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DH and I had been together 6 years, living together for 2 when we got married. People asked us this question too and at first nothing seemed to have changed. After a few months though, things did change. A big part of that was to do with money and having children. I was also dealing with an undiagnosed disease which put more stress on the marriage. Things were rough for a while, but it got better eventually. I never told this to most people though. Only a few knew what was really going on. Whenever anyone else asked how married life was, we just replied same as it was before marriage.
Since you and your DH have been together for so long things probably won't change. I didn't think things would change with my husband and I, but surprisingly they did. We have become more of a unit than two separate people.
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