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Frustrated vent. Long.
Sorry for venting this week. What started off as a pretty good week has slowly turned into poop by today.
I'm upset w/ H. He's a chef, works nights and he rides his bike to work so I pick him up (he has to ride through some pretty rough neighborhoods and I don't like him doing that at night). Last night I'm waiting and waiting for a call; nothing. Finally at quarter to midnight (mind you I have to be up at 6am for work) I call him. If he is still working in the kitchen it goes straight to v/m. It didn't; it rang and rang until eventually his v/m picked up. I knew something was up. He immediately calls me back and I can hear a lot of commotion in the background; I knew exactly where he was - the bar. He proceeds to tell me "I just got out of work you can come pick me up". I knew he was lying (not a huge lie but a lie nonetheless and I don't put up w/ that) b/c if he had enough time to be at the bar a few streets over, he had been off plenty long enough to call me to come get him. I didn't ask him where he was b/c I wanted to make sure before I accused him of anything. I pull in and am waiting for 5 mins and realize he isn't coming out, so I text him. I see him walking down the street w/ a co-worker from the bar! Oooooohhh was I ticked! He gets in the car and he knows I'm pissed. He asks how my day was (after we've been in the car for close to 5 mins) and I said fine, why did you go to the bar and not call me? I have to be up early for work, blah blah blah. He gets mad at ME! Not gonna happen.
We get home I go straight to bed. Its 1am before I hit the pillow. I wake up at 2am and realize he isn't in bed so I go downstairs and sure enough he is passed out on the couch w/ an empty beer bottle. I have no problem w/ him having a drink or two. I have a lot of gripes about the fact that he was an inconsiderate arse and had no intention of calling me before I called him and then tries to turn it around like its my fault. He slept on the couch; we rarely argue and even the times we have, we don't do that. Ouch. I go to leave for work and tell him I'm going and he says okay and rolls over. Nice. Thanks for hanging in this long. I'm tired too. 
Re: Frustrated vent. Long.
Yeah, if you're his ride home, that's a pretty jerk thing to do.
If I were in your siatuation, I would say, "You're welcome to go out after work, but 1) you have to tell me before it happens so I'm not waiting up for you, and 2) you have to find your own, sober ride home (no bike)."
This exactly. We all have days we need to go have a beer after work, but he needs to take you into consideration.
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