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Can I vent?

HokieLawHokieLaw member
in May 2007 Weddings

My mom just told me she may not be here to attend the 5k that a friend and I have been planning (it's for charity, in memory of a friend who died earlier this year).  Maybe I'm being a baby about it but mom was supposed to walk it with some of her friends and some of my ILs plus we had some other family coming in to run it who were supposed to stay with her.  Why might she not be there?  She wants to go to the beach that weekend.  We have a house at the beach, she can go ANY weekend she wants, but she wants to go that weekend. 

The problem is if family can't stay at her house, they won't come because I have all of my ILs staying with me and we're out of room.  Plus, this is a big deal.  I've been working on it since March and I would have thought my own family would come to support me (like I siad, maybe I'm being a baby about this).  I just feel like my entire life if something has been important to me, she comes up with an excuse not to be there.

Oh, and the person this 5k is in memory of?  My mom's best friend's daughter.  If nothing else, she should come for her best friend. 

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  • Mrs.Graves51907Mrs.Graves51907
    I would be upset too.  Maybe you need to tell her you feel like she always bails on you when it's something important to you.  She may not realize that she has a pattern of doing this and it hurts you. 
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  • HokieLawHokieLaw member
    Oh I did.  I even pointed out that I haven't seen either of my parents on my birthday in 14 years because they always go to the beach that week, that she almost missed my law school graduation because she was at the beach and that I was tired of being second best.  I even asked if my sister had planned this event if she would miss it and she said "That has nothing to do with anything."  Of course not, because she knows if sis had planned it, she would be there.  She wouldn't even go with me when I had surgery once because my sister's daughter had dance class and she couldn't miss it.  Seriously.  Surgery.  I was put to sleep.  And she wonders why I don't tell her anything anymore.
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  • Melanie051907Melanie051907
    I'm sorry.  I don't blame you for being upset.  Is your sister going to the event?  Maybe your sister can take one for the team and tell your mom that she should go.
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  • HokieLawHokieLaw member
    My sister is coming but apparently it's "not a big deal" in her eyes.  She said "Mom hasn't been to the beach since earlier this month, you can't tell her she can't go."  Um, mom got back from the beach on Monday. 
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  • Mrs.Graves51907Mrs.Graves51907
    I'm really sorry Mandy.  I'm not sure how I would address the situation if you've already expressed the hurt she is causing. 
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