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My turn to vent
I guess it's a day of venting.
My BFF is really pissing me off. She is pregnant for the 3rd time in 3 years. They were told it would be really hard for her to get pregnant because of irregular cycles so they started trying and she got pregnant 1st month. Then she got pregnant again and it was unplanned. Now she is pregnant again unplanned. She didn't think she could get pregnant because she hadn't start her period after having the second. She also thought that since the doctor told her originally she would have a hard time that she would. Now she is just popping them out left and right. She doesn't even know how far along she is. I just want to slap her and tell her to quit b!tching. She knows how much we are trying and she just seems to rub it in unintentionally. Like when I told her about starting fertility medicine last summer she told me the same day she was pregnant. Then when I tell her I am having a lot of issues and now need surgery she tells me again she is pregnant. Then she goes on to tell me how overwhelmed she is with 2 kids and they have just enough money to barely make it now. I ask her what her H thinks and she says he is tickled because he wants 4! I just want to slap her and tell her to quit b!tching and to come back to reality. I'm also worried sick about her because it will be her 3rd c-section in 3 years. She had major complications last birth. She just doesn't care and her H is worthless when it comes to helping her. Ok vent over.
Started TTC 11/07
BFP 09/24/08
Miscarriage 09/30/08
First cycle of clomid August 09
Second cycle of clomid September 09
BFP 09/30/09
Miscarriage 10/10/09
Three more rounds of clomid and no success
Diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility
Abnormal Bleeding for 3 months resulted in D&C but results were normal
November 2010 100mg clomid but didn't respond
December 2010 forced break for a cyst
February 2011 150mg clomid but still no response
March 2011 250mg clomid and responded! Ovidrel trigger shot and IUI on March 31 Beta #1 11dpo: 27 Beta #2 15dpo: 85 Beta #3 18dpo 276
Re: My turn to vent
I'm sorry Graves. I'm sure she doesn't mean to say things like that (and probably doesn't realize exactly how much it hurts you - not that you aren't happy for her for being pregnant but because you are having such a hard time). Have you told her that she's upset you? It's kind of a hard thing to do though because you obviously want to share things with her and don't want her to stop talking to you.
Perhaps a "A child is a miracle and you should be excited that you're getting to have a third one. I haven't even been blessed with one yet."
She will say things all the time along the lines of feeling so guilty she is pregnant and I'm not. And when it comes down to it I am her #1 supporter and will be forever but it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt sometimes.
Mel, I had heard some of the same issues about the uterus and that is what concerns me. Then we watched a movie the other day in psych called "the business of being born" and it just opened my eyes up about a lot of things concerning prenatal care and birthing. I sent it to her and she said she had seen it already and it was just a bunch of nurses who had no right saying those things since they are not doctors. They were really midwives and there were doctors in there testifying. I think she missed the point of what I was trying to say. Her 1st c-section they didn't even give her an option of a vaginal birth. Told her that the baby would be too big. They told her this when she was 3 months pregnant so they did the scheduled c-section and the baby was only 7lbs.