August 2009 Weddings
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QOTD
For those of you without kids, do you know when you plan to start trying (or if you do at all)? Are you scared of making that leap?
For those of you pregnant or with kids already, did you talk about when you wanted to start trying? Were you scared to start trying?
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Re: QOTD
I think it's pretty obvious by the fact that I asked the question that, yes we do have a plan as to when to start trying. And yes I am totally scared!
I want kids, always have (Well probably only one). And we plan on starting to try early next year. But I'm freaked that 1) we'll have problems and 2) Um, hello-that's a rest of your life decision! Your life changes forever. And while I definitely want to be a mom, that's still really scary to me.
We had orginally thought we would start trying around now but with my new job being only temporary (with a suspected end date of April) we didn't want to harm my chances of staying on my being obviiously pregnant.
Current plan seems to be to revisit the subject again early next year. I'm 32 and we aren't going to continue putting things off indefinitely so we'll likely just make the leap.
However, I stopped the pill early April and am having super long, likely anovulatory cycles so hopefully things will be sorted out by then.
DH and I did talk about having children, and new we would start right away. Since I am over 35, we wanted to jump right in. (however we didn't expect twins).
I was scared, especially about a week after I found out I was pregnant. I remember I was scared to be a mom (but knew I wanted to be one), scared for the delivery, scared of everything around it. I still have times that I am scared I won't be successful at it, but I try to remind myself that I can only try to be the best mom ever to these boys.
As an FYI, to anyone over the age of 35 trying or will be TTC, your chances of popping two eggs increases. The percentage isn't extremely high, but it does happen. (no twins in my family until now).
We always knew we were going to start right after we were married.
I was SUPER scared to try. I was so scared I couldnt have kids since some of my family members couldnt. I know of course there were other options like adoption and maybe its a little selfish but I so badly wanted to go through all the steps, including pregnancy. As predicted, I absolutely loved being pregnant.
Tons of baby vibes to those who are going to start TTC in the near future...or even far future
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We're not exactly sure when we'd try, but I suspect it'd be August 2011. We are very nervous to make the leap and still haven't decided whether or not we even wants kids (we're in the process of doing that now). It's not the first year that scares me -- it's the next 17, and then their adulthood. I really want to raise a kid who's happy, well-adjusted, and doesn't hate our guts.
I'm 32, so we don't have forever, but we are trying to deliberate through the decision carefully because we're both scared witless.
Oh totally this! 100%. The baby part doesn't scare me that much, it's everything after they get to school age.
We're going to start trying early to mid next year.
I wouldn't use the word "scared" but I definitely feel a mix of nervousness and excitement. I know it'll be a big deal, but I've never been one to shy away from life-changing events. Ask me again later, maybe
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We're planning to start trying in December. I just went off BCP last month, so hopefully my body will be sorted out by then. I'll be 32 when we start trying, so that played a big part in our decision making process. I'm really afraid that we'll have trouble conceiving, so I didn't want to push things too late.
ringy summed up very nicely my feelings on it all:
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We don't have a plan, but I think we'll start making one next year. I have a strong desire to go to Australia before we have kids, since it will be such a long vacation. I'd like to start saving now so we can hopefully go next year or 2012. DH isn't that thrilled to wait 2 more years, but I don't know that I'll ever have the urge to be like, "yeah, make me a baby!" I always told him it'd have to be a happy accident. (I realize I'd have to plan for that at least a little bit.)
My family has a really hard time staying pregnant, but getting pregnant doesn't seem to have been a problem. I hope that's not the case with me. I've also had a procedure done on my cervix a long time ago that might make things more complicated.
I'm so torn, because I'd like to just throw my hands up and do it already, but I'm only 25 and know there's still some time. DH wants to be a young parent and have our kids be similar in age to his brothers. I'm not that worried about all of that. You're only as old as you feel.
This whole conversation just stressed me out for the day.
The thought of having kids right now is sort of a mix feeling. I for one don't think I'm ready. I still have a lot of things I want to do and accomplish. DH and I have talked about it and we decided we would put off having kids until we graduated from school and bought a house a least.
I also think were are both to young, we are only 23 and 22. I imagine we start trying maybe in three more years.
Can I ditto everyone? Well, the ones that are planning on starting soon at least.
We're planning to start trying mid next year. I'm going to go off BC at the end of this year and chart TTA.
I'm terrified that we'll have trouble getting pregnant. I hope charting helps.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
We'll probably start trying sometime in the next year. It is definitely scary to me. I'm also of the mentality that having a baby is somewhat scary, but having a teenager, scares the heck out of me. My mom managed to raise three well rounded children, but there is so much more out there now than there was when I was growing up.
I'm also almost 30, so the age factor is starting to weigh on my mind as well. I'd like to be done having kids by 35ish and I would like to have two.
I have two daughters from a previous relationship. I had them when I was very young (I was 15 when I had my first, and 18 when I had my second) so I didn't plan for them or discuss getting pg with their dad at all. They both just kinda happened, which I wouldn't change for the world
DH and I had been together almost 8 years before getting married and we always knew we wanted to have children (or at least one) together. He was ready before I was, and I wanted to wait until we were married. After we were married we discussed it a lot and decided to start trying in March & we got pg in April. I wasn't really scared but I was kind of nervous becuase it had been so long since I had my first two! Once I was pg though, I wasn't scared at all and I loved it. Then we lost our daughter at 19 weeks along due to a severe neural tube defect.
Now we are talking about TTC again, and I am SO scared. I'm not scared of the TTC part, I'm just scared that something will go wrong again and I don't think me or DH could handle it. My doctor gave us the "OK" to start trying in December, but I think we are going to wait a little longer than that.
We discussed when to TTC even before we got married. Initially, we said we would wait a year before trying. After 6 months of marriage, we talked about it again and decided we would TTC because all the things we were going to wait for had been met and we felt ready. It was a little scary when we first started trying, but with every month that passed and it didn't happen, we both realized just how much we wanted it. I think it's totally normal to be scared. A baby will completely change your life and your priorities, but accepting that and even welcoming it made us realize we were ready. Now we can't wait for our LO to be here.
Our game plan is 2-3 more years, though I think I could jump on board sooner. DH is older than me by 5 years, so I kind of worry that there might be some problems on his side. He also already has kids, so it makes me a little more nervous.
We're also hoping to go overseas for his company in the next 2-3 years. Depending on where we go, I wouldn't be able to work anyway, so it seemed like that could be good timing wise.
Oh boy! This issue comes up a lot lately at our house. J would be totally fine with having kids right now, I'm the one that is afraid.
At first I said that I wanted to be in a house and graduated. Well, the house part is done but I bet I have at least 4 more years of school left to get my bachelors because I only go part time and work 45-50 hours per week. It makes school take a billion times longer to get through. I also would like to get a few more things paid off. The financial part is what scares me most I think. I have to keep working after we have kids and I don't know how I feel about that.
I told him that we would talk about it again when I had reached the halfway point with school, which will be next fall. So I'm probably is the same boat as most of the other ladies, within the next year or so. And I'm also terrified! J doesn't want to be an "old" dad and I want to make sure I'm ready for that commitment.. See it stresses me out, can you tell?
We recently started trying. I'm not too nervous. Mostly little things like what we won't have time for, how I'll clean my house, etc. We're both so close to being done with school that we will hopefully be graduated or super close to it by the time we get lucky enough to have our first LO. I'm excited to be a mom and share this experience with my DH.
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About six months before the wedding we decided to start trying a year after the wedding. Then right before the wedding we decided that we wanted to try right away. I wanted to get Lasik done before being pregnant and had that scheduled for January 2010 so that I could replenish and use my FSA. I had Lasik done on a Wednesday and got pregnant that Saturday!
I was scared that it would take forever to get pregnant, that I would miscarry, that something would be wrong with the baby...but thankfully I've had a completely complication free pregnancy. Now I'm on to being nervous about that fact that I will be a mama in just a few weeks!