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craziness...
Goodness gracious. I found out this weekend that a couple that we are friends with are getting a divorce, after 11 years of marriage and 4 small kiddos. The reason they are divorcing is something that I would have never guessed in a million years. They moved about 2 hours away a year ago, so we may see them once every few months. Well, apparently, she has a drug problem...a serious drug problem. She has been doing cocaine, heroine, and possibly meth. She doesn't work (she stays home with the kids) while the husband busts his asss working 6-7 days a week. He would give her money to buy things for herself (and maybe for the kids too) and that's what she was spending it on. When she ran out of money, she would sleep with the dealer.
This is crazy. Looking back, the last time they came down, she must've been going through withdrawals because she was having major stomach problems and was so sick. This breaks my heart, and I feel so bad for the husband and those kids. The husband said that if she was just cheating on him, then maybe they can get through it because he feels that he may have been neglecting her by working so much, but the drugs is something he can't get over. And me, being a Social Worker, I was making sure that he had a good support system where he lives, and fortunately, he does. He thinks that when they do get the divorce, she will go and not look back=(
He's coming down this weekend, and we are going to just try to be there for him and support him. He's known about the cheating for months, and didn't say anything to anyone because he thought maybe they can work through it...but he just found out about the drugs. This sucks!! It seems like everyone around me is going through, or recently went through, something major. Good thing I feel stable enough to help them, or at least I think I am. Heehee.
Re: craziness...
Oh wow! That's so sad
Hopefully, he and the children will get the help they need to be able to cope with all of this. I hope the wife gets help too. That is heartbreaking.
Ditto what Stacey said. Hopefully the kids will get help understanding what's happening(especially if the mom does just take off) And hopefully the mom will eventually come to her senses and get help to get off the drugs. But good of him for doing what is right for his kids and removing them from that situation, especially if she was home caring for them all day, and high at the same time!
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I know firsthand through my sister the toll drugs take on not just the user, but the whole family and the way they suck people in. They will ruin your life if you don't get help and see you have a problem.
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Glad he has a good support system. Wishing him and the kids the best.
The kids are 6,5,3 and 1=( I have no idea what kind of care they were in while she was druggin', but I know they are in good hands now. It's definitely a family matter, because who knows what kind of repercussions those children will face. I hope she gets the help she needs, because that's not the girl we knew years ago. Yeah, people tell me that all the time about my job. The stuff I deal with...man, I could write a book.
Wow that is craziness!! Seriously you always have the most insane stories but you sound like an incredible friend!!!
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11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
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Yeah, it has been pretty insane, but it also opened our eyes to the fact that we need to cut some people out of our lives. Thank goodness Josh and I have a healthy, stable marriage because we wouldn't be able to handle all of this. Oh and thanks for saying I sound like an incredible friend. I try to be!