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Bump C&P WWYD?
Here are the links if anyone is interested, but the basic recap is:
OP's daughter is in daycare. The daycare was interviewing a potential new worker. As part of the interview process, the potential worker was observed interacting with the babies and feeding them and whatnot. Somehow, while all of the bottles were being given, the potential worker fed OP's daughter someone else's bottled BM.
I'm completely on board with the OP being upset about that. It's a bodily fluid, and diseases can be contacted through it. Where it gets squicky for me is that she contacted the other mom to get her medical records to make sure her baby was safe.
The other mother is now having a bunch of testing done to prove that she has no diseases.
Would you be willing to do that? I honestly don't know if I would.
OP http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/42491613.aspx
follow up http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/42581123.aspx
latest http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/42904776.aspx
Re: Bump C&P WWYD?
It would squick me out for a minute but I'd be damned over it.
If the lady had some kind of illness, she would have been advised against breastfeeding. The OP's pwechus snowfwake will be just fuuking fine.
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"Traumatic testing"? Like what, blood draws? Jeezy creezy.
Also, I wouldn't pull my kid from the daycare, it was an honest mistake.
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You've got to fecking kidding me?!? Squirmy and weird - yes. The end of the freaking world? Hardly.
I like to think that I'd probably contact the other mother and ask her "by the way - you don't have the AIDS, right?" At which point I'd laugh it off. She get's some latitude b/c this was her first week back to work and maybe she's a bit wacked out hormonally - but for serious!?
If someone were to call me up and request that I have the tests done - I'd think you were the world's biggest d-bag, but I would probably (reluctantly) agree.
Yeah, if I was in all other ways happy with the daycare, I wouldn't pull my kid either. I would ask that they not allow people not on staff to interact with my kid.
I didn't read the posts, just your summary, but I don't think that asking for some things is over the top. Obviously if she is saying the woman might have AIDS< she is crazycakes. But I would want to make sure there wasn't any thrush or bacterial infection or that (if Ryker had food allergies) if she consumed any of those foods.
And I would not leave the daycare.
She says something to the effect of "The other mother assures me that she is healthy, and she looks healthy, but I can't take her word for it." THINK OF THE CHILDREN.
Then again, I feed my child bug parts. BUG PARTS.
No way would I undergo any medical testing to satisfy this mother without a court order. I'm sorry your kid got my milk, but you can't force invasive medical procedures on someone just because you're concerned. What would she do if another child bled on her daughter and there might have been contamination?
Life's a risk. If you don't want to just wait and see, get your daughter tested.
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Babies pick up nasty sh!t off the ground and put it in their mouths. Some errant breastmilk is probably the least of your worries. I don't think I would worry unless my kid's daycare is in the middle of a trailer park or third world conditions.
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I certainly squirmed at the thought of this happening, but really I would not require any testing from the other mother. Beyond a basic, "is there anything I should be concerned about" type conversation, I would just let it go.
If I was the other mother, I would be pissed that my BM went to somebody else. Like I've said before, that $hit is gold. It is far too valuable to be handing out to strangers.
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if it were my BM, I would not consent to further testing. I didn't feed it to her kid, not my problem.
If it were my baby drinking other woman's BM, I'd squirm a bit and make a visit to the day care to see what procedures they have in place for giving bottles (like Kay said, it should be a 2-person system and someone should be signing off on it). I might also demand a week free for the mistake because I'm of the mind that even if there's an "honest mistake," the company should have to pay for it within reasonable limits. I'd feel vindicated (like, YES! A free week!) and get over it.
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I'm not even squirming. Is there something wrong with my mommy-meter?
Yeah, that's the part that made me side eye. I understand being disturbed by what happened. It wouldn't freak me out beyond an intitial "EW" but I get it.
There's no way I would ever ask another woman to undergo medical testing in this situation, and if I was the other mom I'd have answered that question with some derivative of "B!tch please"
I am not opposed to babies having milk from other people, but certainly you are not seriously using wet nurse back in the day as a realistic comparison.
Only in comparing the fact that this isn't the first time that a child has had the breastmilk of another woman. Her kid isn't going to die because he/she got someone elses milk. It's a practice that was very common a bazillion years ago and those people were fine. Would you not consider the drinking of donated breastmilk akin to common day wet nursing practices? yes it's not boob to mouth but the practice of someone feeding your kid breastmilk that wasn't yours is the same.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
Well, there were higher infant mortality rates back then too.
I would not consider donated breastmilk and wet nursing the same. I would only consider it the same if there was no testing on the donated breastmilk. Furthermore, I wouldn't consider this the same as that since this woman had no choice on who provided the milk her child received.
And like I said, I still don't find this ewwww or even consider the level of freak out necessary, but I just don't find your argument valid.