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update (long)
Ok. So I was so anxious all day yesterday waiting for the mom to get home and worried that the father may come home early (which he does from time to time) that I'm actually sore today from being so tense. I was shaking like a leaf when the wife got home, but she's also kind of my buddy so I just had to get over it and spit it out. And because I'd been thinking about it and what I was going to say all day long,I knew it would probably end up being a word vomit situation. Which is exactly what happened. She walked in the door, said hello and I basically spat it out. Well, of course I prefaced it with we need to talk, you should sit down, we have a problem.I couldn't control the shaking in my voice or the tears that inevitably show up whenever I'm super nervous/upset.
I told her what was going on and she nodded like she was basically expecting this. I felt so badly for her because who wants to expect their husband to behave that way? She apologized for me being so uncomfortable and asked how we should proceed.
Knowing that I was supposed to work today, I felt bad just leaving her in a bind. We agreed that I'd come to work as normal today, but that she would wait to talk to him then until this evening and that I could make my decision on what I wanted to do as far as returning or not over the weekend.
I got to work this AM and to my surprise the husband has his tail between his leg and starts to apologize and..get this...blame his behavior on ADHD and say that he's just an observant person. I called him out and told him that when you have someone working in your home there are certain lines that can't be crossed and that he's crossed them and that ADHD isn't an excuse for hitting on women. He gathered his stuff and left, our conversation was so incredibly awkward.
When the wife got home this afternoon, she asked me how things went and said that she couldn't in good conscience have me come to the house and be alone with her husband without her addressing things with him. I told her things were awkward. She told me that she doesn't want me to just stick around because I love the kid because she couldn't imagine being so uncomfortable at work all the time. I told her I'd email her this weekend with our options.
Which are:
1) I pick the kid up and bring him to my house and watch him here for good.
2) I do option 1 only until I find a new job/she finds a new nanny whichever comes first
3) Call it quits if she's not comfortable with me watching him here and that today (Thursday) was my last day.
I have an interview tomorrow at a bar/restaurant. I waitressed all through college and would rather be done with it, but it would at least be good money and a chance to meet some people. Please just send good vibes. Depending on how the interview goes tomorrow, I may just tell her things are done all together.
Re: update (long)
ugh girl that sucks, hopefully you can work out something appropriate for both of you. In the mean time, at least you have an interview - and you never know, a waitressing job could lead to some good stories (especially in this town!)
btw, I believe I owe you a bottle of wine and some girl talk!
Oh Elizabeth! What a pathetic man...doesn't he know that ADHD makes it DIFFICULT to pay attention and be observant and notice things?!?
I know it's hard making decisions like that. Good vibes tomorrow on your interview.
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