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parents of daughters more likely to divorce

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/09/07/do-daughters-cause-divorce/?partner=rss&emc=rss

This is interesting to the sociologist in me. The idea that daughters are more nurturing to a mother and "eliminate" the need for a husband (as it was presented on our local news station at 5 AM as I was feeding Owen) seems to put the purpose of marriage in a rather narrow role.  

Thoughts? 

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Re: parents of daughters more likely to divorce

  • ha, with my relationship growing up with my mom, no wonder my parents are still married. 

     

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  • I call bullshit. I think moms are more likely to look at their daughter and think, what would I tell her if she was in a similar situation while they are more likely to be intimidated by the idea of raising a boy without his dad.


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  • As science, it seems highly wonky.  First, the increased chances are pretty small.  Then, the reasoning seems highly speculative at best. 
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  • I'm not sure I agree that daughters are more nurturing towards their mother to begin with.

    Even if you do agree with that premise,  I don't think 5% is compelling evidence to support a correlation.  

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  • imagehindsight's_a_biotch:
    I call bullshit. I think moms are more likely to look at their daughter and think, what would I tell her if she was in a similar situation while they are more likely to be intimidated by the idea of raising a boy without his dad.

    I tend to agree with this.

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  • And is there any regard to the age of the children at the time of the divorce?

    This reasoning seems supported by the fact that girls are a "friend" to the mother and/or help out with chores, but that can't possibly be true until the child is much older. 

    Besides, if you're going to keep someone around to do chores, might I suggest a teenage boy for lawn mowing, car fixing, etc. ;)

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  • I don't think I'm buying it.

    Somewhat related, I'm surprised how many people have asked me if we're going to try for a girl since "a son's a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life." 

  • I call shenanigans.

    Interesting theory - but they speculate the reason behind the divorce are there regardless of sex of the child, just that a daughter ultimately makes a mother feel safer. SHENANIGANS! 
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  • imagewendyld:

    And is there any regard to the age of the children at the time of the divorce?

    This reasoning seems supported by the fact that girls are a "friend" to the mother and/or help out with chores, but that can't possibly be true until the child is much older. 

    Besides, if you're going to keep someone around to do chores, might I suggest a teenage boy for lawn mowing, car fixing, etc. ;)

    My son is 8 and he's already oodles more useful than his 7 year old sister. He takes out the dog and washes dishes. She cries over her homework and drains my wallet with all her sewing requests. Also, ballet class costs more than cub scouts.

    Boys are easier.



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  • What's the name of that restaurant you like with all the goofy shiit on the walls and the mozzarella sticks?

    Yeah, that theory seems like a stretch.

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  • correlation =/= causation

    This is all pure speculation.

    Kay, I would respond to those comments with an, "oh, no.  I'm raising my son to be a momma's boy, so he'll always be mine.  All mine."

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  • Oh man, my dad was right. I did ruin his life.

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  • imageNovemberrocks:

    Kay, I would respond to those comments with an, "oh, no.  I'm raising my son to be a momma's boy, so he'll always be mine.  All mine."

    I say that he's gay and everyone knows gays can't get married. 

  • imageKayRI:

    I don't think I'm buying it.

    Somewhat related, I'm surprised how many people have asked me if we're going to try for a girl since "a son's a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life." 

    I think whomever came up with that quote should search the nest for all the posts about momma's boys and problems with their meddling MIL. 

  • imageKayRI:

    I don't think I'm buying it.

    Somewhat related, I'm surprised how many people have asked me if we're going to try for a girl since "a son's a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life." 

    That's why I plan to marry my son.

    ew, i know that was a joke but it just squicked me out.

  • imageKayRI:

    I don't think I'm buying it.

    Somewhat related, I'm surprised how many people have asked me if we're going to try for a girl since "a son's a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life." 

    Stop hanging out with TamponMonoxide.
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