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Our timing is always off!
How many out there are in the same boat? It's 3pm, I work from home, and man I am horny. The hubs is stuck at work til 5, and by the time he arrives home at 5:30 my raging hormones have deserted me. Let's pick another random time...husband is horny, I'm not. Later that day, I'm finally in the mood, he's tuckered out from the day and wants to go to bed early. I'll text him during the day and say to come home early and it will be the day he has to stay late or isn't feeling so great. Of course. It will be the day he's being romantic or frisky and I'm worn out or just not feeling it.
We are both in the mood at complete opposite times!!!! It is so annoying. I'd be okay just 'going with it', but my BC dries me out like the sahara, so its pretty uncomfortable unless I'm really in the mood.
We are strong in our relationship and realize there is more to a marriage than just sex, but it is annoying for both of us when we want to have sex 4-5 times in the week, but because of our mix-match schedules, we usually only do it once or twice in a week.
Any advice from fellow sufferers on what works to get you in sync?
Re: Our timing is always off!
I feel your pain, DH and i work COMPLETELY opposite shifts. I'm a teacher, and he works 3:30-midnight, so we see each other on weekends only really.
Perhaps if you set out a time to have sex, like after dinner or right before bed then you will both be waiting for that time. Or try to get yourself in the mood again when DH comes home from work, greet him at the door in something sassy
Also, don't be a stranger to lube if you need it, you will prob be more into sex if you know it wont hurt, right?
4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
IVF ICSI #2- (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
ER - 8/7 19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU
Used this technique this week, worked like charm :-)
You could even ask him to give YOU a massage...I know either way gets my DH going. I understand where you are coming from since I have the same problem with my hubby.