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Table manners (or travels with the ILs II)

Are table manners dead? The more I eat with my ILs, the more I'm... ugh, I hate to say it... revolted by my FIL's manners. We're talking talking with food in his mouth, reaching across the table... He also refuses to pass any dishes around that he himself doesn't want causing a backlog. Oh, and then there's the not observing the amount of food on the table. We had 2 baguettes for 7 of us. He ate 1 and a quarter by himself. Also, he does this weird inhalation noise that reminds me of Hannibal Lector. It's really grossing me out! And I just... man, it's not like he's a bad person (boring, embarassing, yes, but not bad). I feel guilty for being so grossed out. Here endeth today's rant!

Re: Table manners (or travels with the ILs II)

  • Eww gross! Maybe you need to start taking them out for wings or some other similar hands-on food. Oh wait, he's the picky eater too, isn't he?
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  • Ugh, that's tough.  He's probably completely unaware that he's so crass st the table, and there is probably no way to change the behavior.
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  • Unfortunately, I don't think there's any tactful way to point it out to him.  I think this is just one of those things you have to grin and bear and be happy you guys don't eat together that often.  :(
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  • There's really not much you can do about bad table manners once someone is an adult.  How much longer are they here? 
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  • No, change is definitely not going to happen. He knows he has bad manners but he just says that no one cares. It's awful because my MIL is just resigned to it, and Phil is embarassed too. One more week and a bit is what we have left. But we get Monday - Friday free of them. I just feel so guilty for being so grossed out. I keep thinking how vulgar the behaviour is, and then I feel classist.
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