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makeup sex?
My husband and I are in a fight today and are not speaking to each other. How do people go from fighting to sex? I don't get it.
Re: makeup sex?
I usually works best after you've started to talk again and apologize. Then you can either have really hot angry sex or slow passionate romantic sex.
H and I are fighting too - he's apologized but I'm still a little mad, but I'm freakin horny.
Heh, I love the way you phrased that. Personally, I've never felt the obligation to talk during sex anyway. It would just distract us. And my fianc? and I are both very easily distracte....... Ooh! Pretty birds! O_O
One time whilst DH and I were arguing, I slammed my hands down on the kitchen counter and just screamed "can we just fvck already?!?!"
We looked at each other and began laughing.
And we had make up sex.
Last updated 4/06/11
I am trying this next time.
It takes a LOT less stress and energy to have sex than it does to hold onto grudges (or try to "get over") things for days. Just fyi.
Sex is more fun too!
There are a couiple ways you get from fighting to sex...you can either resolve the problem (which for me shows how wonderful we are as a couple and makes me so attrated to my husband) and that tends to be the more romantic sex or like other people said you are so mad and frustrated that I think your body is just confused and you get super duper horny and you can take your frustrations out on eachother, which is more of a rough fun sex. When you are angery your body shows many of the same signs as arousal so it is easy to see why your bodies get confused.
Sorry that you had a none speaking fight and I'm sure you are made up by now but if not just try and ingore why you were made and give him a big passionate kiss and things will get better. It is easier to come to a solution when you want to hug him instead of kicking him in the balls
This. And, when you're mad you don't have sex so the intensity builds and it can be pretty good, though I tend to think the stress of fighting makes it utterly not worth it. But, it does happen, so you should at least enjoy that part!
our makeup sex usually goes something like this.
fight fight fight
all day
fight
fight more
then he wants to talk (i have a suspension he gets horny so decides to make up... )
and he starts saying alll the right things.
he understands where i'm coming from yaddda yada
i'm the most beautiful woman to him. he's so glad to share his life with me and would never want anyone else.
i'm so perfect et etc
and i can't help but not be mad.
then he wants sex
You have it two ways:
1. trying to make up without saying sorry first. Usually when we go to bed, if he lets me touch him (sometimes we're too angry for that), I gently slide my hand up to his leg and *ahem* parts. This just works into things.
2. Usually if its been a day or two fight we're just happy to make-up and be touching/kissing eachother again, the first kiss after a fight is the best and it usually leads to there after his *ahem* part pokes me through whatever he's wearing.
His part has amind of its own...its like "what?!?!...we're getting kisses, give me some!"
But, I should say, this might only work if you're a touchy feely couple (like us) we can't stand not touching eachother (skin,hands, hair, whatever) for more than 30 mins at a time.
We really don't fight at all. Whatever is bothering us we talk about it, compromise and move on. But the idea of getting really heated in anger and then having make up sex sounds entising. I still wouldn't want to pick a fight to make up.
I've never posted on this board before, but seeing this I felt the need.
My BF and I hardly ever fight and we have a very affectionate relationship. But when we do fight, sometimes it gets pretty bad just because it's so rare and I tend to fan the flame. But the reason for that is because when I see him again (usually we argue when we're apart), he'll just apologize and kiss me and I just can't resist him. I totally suggest makeup sex, the passion is incredible and you can really work out your anger if you're a screamer lol. Just be brave and try to kiss him when you're both in a slightly better mood. Unless you aren't that kind of couple that can forgive easily..then I'm sorry you have to miss out. Good luck!