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Need some NER quasi-work-related advice
I know I complain about work a lot, but I've basically reached my breaking point and aside from upping and quitting (which isn't an option right now), I don't know what to do.
I'm pretty sure one of my bosses doesn't like me and wants to get rid of me. Lately, he's generally been difficult to be around, but he seems to be overly critical of me. It seems like no matter what I do (caliber of work-wise), it isn't good enough. Recently, a he apparently spoke with one of my clients who was calling to check in because he thought I was supposed to call him to discuss something - in actuality, when we last spoke, the client was supposed to call me to discuss. Whatever. But boss flew off the handle. Last week boss was visibly upset when I advised client there was no way a court would award spousal maintenance to a party that makes more than the other party. Boss has now started e-mailing me instead of actually talking to me.
I'm pretty sure this stems from boss's own personal issues, combined with that boss is swamped with work, and when he recently told me he needed me to get something done for him ASAP, I was too swamped myself and actually couldn't do it.
I spoke with boss #2 about the situation as a whole and boss #2 suggested boss #1 is feeling like I'm being "reactionary" rather than "thinking ahead" and "having a plan" and while he knows I do think ahead because we meet frequently to discuss cases, perhaps it isn't coming across. Boss #1 has never specifically mentioned this, but whatever...
So, I'm trying to be proactive. Yesterday, I sent boss #1 emails on a few cases with a "this is how I think we should handle this case" plan. My plans were met with a "that's stupid" type response...
Anyway, that brings me to the crux of my current dilemma. Tomorrow night we're having an office night out. There are only 4 of us in the office, so I can't avoid boss #1. We will not get to talk before the night out, and boss #1 isn't so good at discussing issues, anyway. Ack... I'd prefer to just leave work tomorrow night and not go out, but I can't.
I hate this. I feel like I'm a 1L in law school again where I get beat down every day so badly that I feel like an incompetent idiot.
Re: Need some NER quasi-work-related advice
Sorry! immature bosses blow!
The only thing I can say is that even if your boss thinks every idea you have is stupid, don't let that stop you from continuing to suggest plans and "think ahead" or what not.
Maybe this "night out" will be a good opportunity to show your boss ( even if you are just talking to others) that you are on top of your sh!t and are handling things in a way he would approve off? Like, allow him to ease drop or something?
GL!
Oh, man, Elizabeth. I was in a similar position at my last firm and that didn't work out well. I'd just say to CYA in terms of any e-mail sent (print them out or forward them to a personal account) and definitely try to talk to Boss #1, however painful it is. I avoided the boss I thought did not like me, and let's just say in talking to a former partner at the firm (who really did advocate for me), the boss I thought had it in for me was not the one really undermining my future at the firm.
As for the night out, I'd go if only for a short period. Maybe have your DH meet you with an excuse of having another engagement shortly after you arrive.
Good luck. Sorry it's so rough right now.