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Tell Me Tuesday
Tell me what school was like for you. Feel free to be honest.
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my read shelf:
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Back in June 2010...
It's almost here! Weeeeeeee!
my read shelf:
43/70 books read
Back in June 2010...
Re: Tell Me Tuesday
High School was a terrible mess for me. I've never been able to really connect with girls, most of my best friends have always been guys & when you're constantly surrounding yourself with guys rumors fly. I loved boys & boys loved me & that really didnt go over well with the girls. It got a little better when I got with my HS bf but all my best friends were still guys so it was always a struggle.
College was great while I went, I loved that people werent there for any other reason than because they wanted to be.
I loved high school. I didn't have my first job until I was 18 so I spent all high school with no responsibilities and doing nothing but having fun and I loved it.
College was a mixed bag. I loved being a student there because I have always loved OSU but I made a lot of stupid decisions, academically and otherwise. Looking back, I would have done things a lot differently.
I hated high school esp after my parents moved during the middle of my sophomore year bc they decided they wanted a bigger house. I had a hard time making friends since everyone's little cliques and gangs had already been established. I did find one group and we quickly become friends. Most of my friends didn't have to work and since I had been working since 15, I did missed out on some of the weekend fun things.
College was great, even though I was not much of the party type. None of my friends went to OSU and I did not live in the dorms, so it was a little harder making friends, but I still did. I worked 2 jobs through college so I wouldn't have loans to pay off and glad now that I did. I never really made any bad or dumb decisions except for the fact that I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do when I graduated. Now that I do, I am in the process of trying to complete my teaching license and Master's degree online.
I loved high school! I played sports I had lots of friends in different groups, it was really fun! Looking back I made my best friends in high school and I am still close with all of them!
College was really fun as well, but it was also very challenging! Balancing time and going out was hard for me at first. I also at times felt very lost and that made my grades stuffer in the beginning! However, as school went on it got a lot better and that is where my husband and I met so in the end college was the best experience of my life, because without it I would not be married and happy!!
I loved being in school as a kid. No, it wasn't always fun and happy, but I had some good friends, good teachers and generally had a good time. I wasn't really a dork but I did take AP classes, played in the band, didn't party, etc. But I wasn't too worried about being one of the "cool" kids and hung out with other kids like me, so I was happy.
I absolutely LOVED college and would go back in a heartbeat! I miss it every September.
College was the best thing ever!! There are still days I wish I could go back. I won't lie my first year was harsh, I was really homesick and would go home every weekend. Sophomore year was the greatest of all, going to parties and got the opportunity to study a week in Cuba.
honestly, high school wasn't ever really fun for me. i ended up going to a new school starting my junior year so it made it even less fun. freshman and sophomore year at the first school were not too bad. i had a couple of close friends but it was a private school in a different town and no one lived near me so we never really got to hang out. and then at the other school (also in a different town from where i lived) i always found it difficult to fit in but had a couple of groups of friends. most of my real friends were from other schools. i didn't play sports and i didn't join any clubs or anything like that so i never really gave myself the opportunity to devlop friendships. there are currently two people i talk to from high school and i didn't really get to know them until after we graduated.
i worked all through high school and my friends were all at work and mostly older than me. i was not a good kid my senior year. i essentially moved in with my boyfriend because i was always butting heads with my mom. and then all i did was focous on my job. so i skipped a lot of school and by the end of the year i was not on track to graduate and was considering dropping out and getting my GED. and then reality hit me and i realized how stupid i was being and how much i let my family and mostly myself down so i went back for a 5th year of high school. it sucked but i think in the long run it was the best decision i ever made.
college has been ongoing since i graduated high school. after high school my major focus was still working and so i decided to go to college part-time. and then i was in a position where i was too far on my own and even if i wanted to go to school full-time i couldn't... at that point i had to work. so i never got the "college experience" which is fine. i'm still going part-time and should be done with my associates degree in may. thank goodness... its only been 6 freaking years.
sorry... that was longer than i thought...
High School was absolutely miserable for me. I had acquaintances in every group but no friends outside of the school day. I dealt with it though. Nobody ever made fun of me and I wasn't bullied, I just didn't have any friends. I try not to think about high school, though. It doesn't have a lot of warm memories.
College has been okay. I have made my mistakes but we all do. I will be done this semester finally, so that is the important thing. I didn't live the "college experience." I worked the whole time I have been in school, commuted, and haven't been able to participate in extra curriculum because my schedule just wouldn't allow it. I do love my Coogs though!
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Socially, high school was awful. I had a big falling out with most of my friends junior year.
Academically, I've always done well in school. I'm a major perfectionist. Some things came to me easily (English) and other things, I had to work at (math). I got really good grades and won the Sterling Scholar in English award. I genuinely liked school.
I went to a college that was about 4 hours away from home and hated it. I loved living in the dorms and having more freedom, but everyone at the school was really religious and I didn't have any friends.
At this point, I was pretty burned out with school. I moved home and got a job and went to school part time. I signed up for fewer and fewer classes until I wasn't taking any.
Recently, I realized that having a degree is really important to me so I talked to an academic advisor and got back on track with classes. I'm planning to take fall, spring, and summer classes to finish as fast as possible. I still don't really like college, but it's worth it to have that degree.
High school had its ups and downs. I had some huge falling outs with some friends junior and senior year and my bff tried to commit suicide senior year. I missed out on a lot of school experiences because I was too busy partying and following my college age boyfriend and his crew around. Luckily I kept out of trouble and finally pulled my head out of my butt.
College was okay. I was homesick a lot. I didn't make very many friends in the dorms because I was over the partying part. I also was work over 40 hours a week and taking 21 credits my first semester so I didn't have any spare time. The I met H and he lived an hour and a half away so I spent a lot of my spare time on the phone with him and weekends going to see him. Then my friend and her then bf (now H) moved down to where I was going to school and I moved in with them. My final semester of that college was the best.
Then I moved and went to BSU to get my Bachelor's. I lived at home so I didn't have as much of an opportunity to meet people and had my HS friends that still lived in the city. I think in the long run it was for the best because I kept my grades up, but I do regret not completely enjoying the college experience before I entered the "real world."
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In the 5th grade, my life changed. My "friends" decided that it would be fun to totally exile me from our lunch table. It made sense to them: I was too tall, fat, and ugly. So they said I should go away, forever.
By 8th grade, those turds had put me into therapy with a chemical imbalance. I was on an anti-depressant for the next year.
Freshman year was decent... I was in the band and we all sort of banded together. And I had convinced my BFF's mom to let her attend my high school. I had known them since 2nd grade but we had NEVER gone to the same school.
Sophmore year, that BFF of mine turned on me. And in turn, the other 7 girls that we hung with followed her. Cause that's what catty girls do. One gets upset and they all follow.
By Senior year, they were making my life a living hell. I dreaded going to school and tried to skip when I could.
They called me fat. They called me ugly. They called me a rich ***. Because of them and the fact that I NEVER stood up for myself, I was banished to eat alone in the library.
And if my stuff was alone? They threw my books all over the floor, stomped on my bag, etc. Graduation day was the happiest day EVER.
Luckily, I stopped letting ANYONE push me around and college was more enjoyable.
But I still have scars. Those wounds are still there, what those 8 girls did to me. The hell that they put me through.
Recently, it all came back up. Those wounds were slightly re-opened. The scars are brighter. And oddly, it wasn't ME that was getting crucified. It was someone else who really doesn't deserve it. And to be honest, I was shocked that I had once again found myself being friends with hurtful people.
I think people who went through hell in school at some point are LESS likely to turn into a catty monster. Once it happens to you, it's hard to get behind someone doing it.
P.S. 3 of those girls from school have messaged me in the last few years..apologizing for being horrible and admitting that they never really had a reason to do what they did. I was an easy target and they were bored. Awesome.
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Back in June 2010...
High school was meh. I had most of my classes with the honors/AP kids. I got the grades, did the after-school activities, yada yada blah blah blah.
College I loved! I cannot wait to go to my 10 year reunion this year. :oD (Only a little bit because I have this hot husband to show off!)
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Elementary and MS were eh. I was picked on in 5th and 6th grade- no real friends. My parents moved me to Texas before 7th grade, so MS was a transition period. Trying to find my place. Pretty much sucked. However, I've met very few people who actually enjoyed MS.
HS was great. I was really involved (drill team, theater, academic decathalon). I had a group of very close knit friends (all of which came to my wedding, 2 as BMs 13 years later) as well as various friends in most other "cliques".
College- also great. Went to a small school in which I was very involved-president of my sorority, various councils and committees. Made some very close friends. However, I'm surprised I'm alive based on some of the stupid crap I pulled.
I also must say, for both HS and college, I loved it when I was there, but was ready for it to be over. It was like I woke up one day in the sorority house and decided. Damn. It's time to graduate because I am SO done with this place!
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BFP 9/27/12 EDD 6/11/13, MC 9wks, no HB