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From a great day to an awful one in 3.5 seconds
So. Excuse me while I type this through the tears.
I got a phone call today that I FINALLY GOT AN INTERVIEW (insert huge YAY here to the possibility of no longer being unemployed!)
Obviously, I text Dave first. We have a mini-celebration via text. Then I call my mom...she was a teacher too and she knows how much I want to be back in a classroom. I was expecting her to be very very excited...instead I get a "Oh, that's good." So when I call her on her unexcitedness, she tells me she has some sad news.
My sister was pregnant. 11 weeks. She had an ultrasound last week and everything was perfect. She had another appointment scheduled for yesterday, and was really excited to be able to tell everyone last night about the newest family member. Instead, they got there and there was no heartbeat. The doctor wasn't able to tell her what could have happened in the past week to affect the baby, but it died. She is devastated. She cancelled all her patients today, and for tomorrow as well. Her three babies are with a babysitter.
I am heartbroken for her. I really can't stop crying. She is the world's best mom, and her husband is an incredible father. They want a big family. I haven't spoken to her yet because I haven't been able to stop sobbing, and my mom warned me not to call her if I was crying. I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.
I'm sorry this is rambly. I am really really upset right now.
Re: From a great day to an awful one in 3.5 seconds
Hugs! Its hard to say what you should say. I think the best thing is I am here for you if you need me. Its hard when you lose a child you so deeply wanted. I read several blogs of woman that have lost babies and they say they don't like hearing the typical things people say when you lose a child.
Hang in there and just be what your sister needs she will let you know. It may take some time but she will let you in when she is ready!
She will be in my thoughts n prayers.
Oh, my goodness. How sad. I'm so sorry for your whole family, but especially for your sister and her husband.
I'll be praying for them.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
I'm so sorry, that's horrible! I'll be praying for your sister and her husband!
Congrats on the interview, I know its not as exciting now...
I'm so sorry for your sister. I can't imagine how hard that is. I think more than having the right words it's just being there for her that she will appreciate the most. Hugs to all of you.
Congrats on your interview. I hope you get the job and get out of our unemployed club.
oh hun, i'm so sorry to hear about your sister, thats terrible.
Sending lots of thoughts and prayers her way.
congrats on your interview though, i'm sure you will do great.
This is my biggest fear ever!! How incredibly sad.
So sorry for your sister and her hubby!
My aunt had a friend who had a full term pregnancy and the baby was FINE and then right at the end (39 weeks I guess...right before her due date), the baby suddenly didn't have a heartbeat. She had to PUSH THE BABY OUT like normal labor, knowing full well that it was already dead and there was nothing she could do about it. I don't understand these horrible things.
I'm so, so sorry. How close does your sister live? would you be able to take over a meal? I can't imagine what I would say either, but a warm meal for the family would be a nice gesture.
Megan, that's one of the hardest things...we are six hours away, I won't see her again until November. And she lives somewhere really rural, so I can't even send her an edible arrangement or anything either.
I called her and we talked...she said that she's been having a really rough time. She said the drive home from the hospital (about a five hour drive) was one of the worst experiences in her entire life. Especially since this was so unexpected...she had had no reason to worry or suspect that anything was wrong. She kept asking the technician "are you sure? but can you be 100% positive? this must be a mistake"
When she told me that, I burst into tears. I just couldn't hold it together. She's trying to be strong, especially since she has the three babies at home that don't know what's going on and why mommy and daddy are sad.
We're all just taking this really hard.
I am so so so sorry to hear that. My T&Ps are with you and your family.
GL on the interview though, I'm sure you will do great!
Hey on the getting something delivered is there a resturant that she likes to go to that is close? Maybe see if they would deliver a meal and they could just charge you?
Hang in there sorry you are so far away! This is a tough time. Hugs and of course I will pray for them for healing. This is something that you can never understand.
I'm so sorry J! That really sucks and I know how you feel. My sister-in-law MC at 9 weeks before they had my nephew (their 2nd). You never really know what to say and I know she was getting tired of the "are you ok" questions. So instead... I took her a big fat slice of homemade chocolate mousse cake (her favorite).
I'm sorry that you cant be close to her right now. That makes it so much harder when you just want to give her a hug.
BUT YAY ON THE INTERVIEW! That's super exciting! GL, I know you'll do great.