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Really Weird Question
So, H and I have never done oral. A friend bought us a book on it when we got married as a joke. He has mentioned before that he likes it (his ex did it on him once), but that he doesn't feel comfortable giving it, mostly because he doesn't know what to do. I'm open to trying to give it, but not sure what to do either. But I definately would love to have him do it for me. So, here's my question. We have the book, but H said he doesn't think a book would help, that maybe a youtube video that demonstrates it would be better. Is this weird? I'm more of a visual learner as well, but I'm not sure that watching someone else have oral sex would really teach me the proper way to do it? So, how does one go about learning how to perform oral sex?
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Re: Really Weird Question
something tells me that you won't find a youtube video. unless it's with a doll. or unless youtube is able to put pornographic material. i'm sure there are porn sites that have such video's though.
but i do agree with pp. it's just trial and error. i don't know how guys figure it out. i just know i did it myself once and went from there. it isn't exactly rocket science when it comes to performing oral on a guy.
Books are actually pretty good, and they usually have pictures to kinda help too, I'd read it or at least skim it. We got a book from a secret santa thing one year, I had done oral a good amount before and was already awesome at it (haha) but still skimmed the book, it just gives you at least different ideas and what not.
I don't think I'd do the video idea.
Really though trial and error is the right way to do it. Every guy is a bit different in what they like and what they don't like so you'll have to kinda test the waters.
Couple little hints and tips to get started:
-Start slow...little kisses or licks around the base of his penis...tease a little (but not too much so that he gets bored)
-Use lots of saliva...you could use flavoured lube but I personally hate the taste, but you do need a lot of saliva if you're not using lube. I pretty much start by licking up his shaft making sure I'm just lubricating it (leaving lots of slobber on him).
-Use your hands!....don't feel as though his penis needs to be in your mouth the entire time (your jaw will get super tired if you do this and YOU'LL hate it!) switch it up. sometimes suck, sometimes lick, sometimes use just your hands.
-Don't forget the balls!...while you have him in your mouth play around with them a little.
At least the first couple times, TALK...and encourage him to talk. Let him know at the beginning that he should tell you if he wants you to try anything different. Harder? Softer? I like this, I don't like that.
And he should try oral on you a couple times too...you can show him where to lick let him know if he should go faster or slower, add a finger while licking and whatnot.....honestly it's one of the best things on earth, you should get to feel it too!
This reminds me of that scene from American Pie where that kid found the top seckrit sex manual hidden in the bowels of the school library.:)
Videos help, too -- and I suggest you masturbate. Then show him what feels good.
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Ok ok ok, the Kama Sutra is very different from the word karma, so I'm guessing that you didn't learn too much from the video.
This.
We have it. It came as a free gift with an order we got from A&E. We didn't really need a how to on that, but watched it anyway. It's a good DVD for a beginer. I have since given it to a friend. She swears by it now.
youporn.com
they have an "instructional" section
http://www.youporn.com/category/24/instructional/
I'm thinking a book would be your best bet, along with simple trial and error. The only fear that I have about watching a video to learn is that it may make the whole process seem a little overbearing because porn tends to make everything more over-the-top and, well, porographic. lol. Most of all, just try to relax, and enjoy yourself!
Best of luck!
definitly try using the trial and error method, make sure to be honest with each other about how everything feels. i think finding a video to watch together is a great idea not weird at all its very healthy to explore new things togehter. be patient and trust each other you will be sooooo happy when u get it figured out.
ps. have you tried reading cosmopolitan magazine? ive been with my fiance for 7 years so im always looking for new ways to spice things up and get all my new tricks from their articles.