inspired by MM: have you ever dated multiple guys at once?

strength · October 2010

and date doesn't necessarily mean "sleeping with", i just mean dating. and if so, did you tell them that you were dating others also or did you let them assume whatever they wanted to?

they are sure having a wild time on MM today! (and clearly, i'm bored).

Mrs.Leah.Maria · October 2010

Kind of. ::shrugs shoulders and ends with a question mark::

Janell's Nest · October 2010

Right after I broke up with my ex I started doing online dating and was casually dating a guy when I met my now husband, and continued with both until I realized that my husband was a keeper...so I guess that's a yes. In my defense though my DH did the same thing and I think that's pretty common at first when you're online dating though.

huwehotaling · October 2010

I have but only for short periods of time. I'd usually go on a few dates and decide which one I liked better and stick with him.

SoEnamoured · October 2010

I tried dating a few guys at the same time (not sleeping with) when I was 18 or 19. I let them assume anything they wanted because we weren't serious. As far as I was concerned, it was like I was interviewing them - they were interviewing me too.

There were a few phone conversations though, where I couldn't tell who was calling until 5 mins into the call. I did not like that. It'd be so much easier nowadays with caller ID.

mrs.raz · October 2010

Since I met DH on eHarmony yes. But I assumed the guys were doing the same.

After the first date with DH, I told the other two that I went on a few dates with I wasn't interested anymore. I knew Greg was the one for me!

My first year in college I dated two "John's" at the same time. Thankfully my roomate was really good about getting everyone's phone number so I knew who to call back. : ) Of course this was way before caller id was common.

I don't think I could ever date/sleep with two different guys at the same time.

strength · October 2010

Janell's Nest:
I think that's pretty common at first when you're online dating though.

i 100% agree with this. i think it's much more common with online dating where you sort of have a "pool" of people at your fingertips. it's not like meeting someone organically because usually by the time you decide to go on a date, you've already decided you like them.

i've also dated 2 or 3 guys at a time and i really didn't like it. i think it sounds fun in theory but in practice, it doesn't sit well with me so i've never done it for long. i've always tried to be honest about it but have occasionally let people assume what they wanted.

and as a side bar, leah maria, your new photos are A-MA-ZING!

razamataz · October 2010

According to DH, yes, I have. According to me, no, I haven't.

After I met DH (in person at a wedding) and he went back to the UK, he and I emailed back and forth. No phone calls - just email. I thought it was simply a friendly "getting to know a penpal" type thing and so I continued to see various people - but strangely never told DH even though I seemed to be able to tell him everything else about me. I was always vague about my social plans and who I was with. I think subconconsciously I knew what we had was more than friendship and I didn't want to hurt him.

From the start, he thought our correspondence symbolized something more than simple friendship. It was about 6 months into things before I realized it was something more too.

MrsKizdoodle · October 2010

Freshman year of college I went on 2-3 dates with this guy (who was the WORST kisser, blech!). Thankfully then I met DH. The first time DH came over to watch a movie in my dorm room the other guy called and asked if he could come hang out. I said, "Sorry I have....company." I think he figured out my company was a boy and we didn't date beyond that. And well....the rest is history, natch. So they didn't really overlap but at the time since it was not serious yet with DH part of me said, "Who should I pick???" Looking back I can laugh because DH is so obviously right and that other guy was sooooo obviously wrong. He's still in a band and lives the rock and roll lifestyle and that's....not me. :-) Plus his kisses were more slobbery than Boston's...and that is sayin' something!

wittyschaffy · October 2010

I once had 2 dates in a day. Embarrassed

I online dated and they were both first dates. one was brunch one was dinner. Neither of them were keepers.

chaoticmum · October 2010

SoEnamoured:
I tried dating a few guys at the same time (not sleeping with) when I was 18 or 19. I let them assume anything they wanted because we weren't serious. As far as I was concerned, it was like I was interviewing them - they were interviewing me too.

I did the same. I had about 3 guys I was hanging out with that had potential; one got a little too lovey-dovey too soon, one had some real shyness issues and one just wanted to get in my pants. None of them became "dating" status, we just weren't good matches.

madalynnsmommy09 · October 2010

Kind of, I was dating a guy that I went to HS with whom was in Japan in the Navy. I was online just chatting with people NOT looking for a BF, and ended up talking with DH. I broke things off with my ex before going on a date with DH first.

pourroni · October 2010

No I never really did. First dates were normally a tell all for me. One date my sophomore year in college a friend of a friend asked me to dinner. I thought we were just going as friends until my roommates told me it was a date. It was so awkward. I had no attraction to him and he wanted to order for me. Maybe at some fancy restaurant, but I can take care of myself at Applebees.

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